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Self Confidence and phobia

asked 2012-02-07 22:09:30 -0500

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updated 2012-03-30 16:09:36 -0500

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Satnam Shree waheguru I am a 22 years old sikh boy from United States. I am a college junior. I was born in an upper middle class family and I have lived a very confortable life so far. My dad died at a very young age and I have lived in my uncle's house for most of my life. My heart and mind are always in a fight and I can't concentrate. I feel inferior and get nervous very easily. Even though I am a very good student I sometimes feel I can't get to my goals. I want to become a doctor and I have failed the Mcat exam twice. I feel my failure was not due to lack of preparation but due to lack of confidence. Even in classes I get very nervous and frightened. Public speaking is my biggest fear. I can't act normal in front of strangers. I feel every one is judging me on anything I do. After watching Sikh net videos I have started waking up early and been doing japji and Rehras sahib. But I feel I am not 100% into the path. When I am doing Path alot of weired thoughts come to my mind. I am fully aware of my abilities but due to nervousness and lack of confidence I can't take fully advantage of them. Sometimes I become very anxious and almost have panic attack. I can sometimes physically feel the nervousness, my hands get sweaty, legs begun to shake. I get scared going on highways, Unfamiliar areas and getting into fights. I want to become a confident, fearless, positive and a complete humanbeing. Please, please, please help me.

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answered 2012-03-01 11:29:14 -0500

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Reciting the Bani of Guru Gobind Singh will give you more courage and strength.

I would suggest that you also set aside time every morning or before going to sleep to meditate. Read the following details about meditation and then you can pick out one of the meditations to practice each day. Commit to this and try for at LEAST 40 days and see what happens. (Shabad Kriya or Kirtan Kriya meditations would be great for you to practice)

Also you can watch these related videos:

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answered 2012-03-01 01:11:00 -0500

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Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fathe!!

hi, I used to have the lowest self esteem and and I still do but i kept repeating to my self that I am a daughter of a king (Guru Gobind Singh Ji). I get nervious when I speek out in public too, my voice starts to shake. I also don't like being watched. I do Jap ji Sahib, Jap Sahib, Saviey, choupie sahib and Andand sahib every morning and yes my mind flies in all different directions. I hate it my self but I do ardass and ask for inner peace and ask God to take over me. You just need to believe in your guru and trust your guru because your guru is always with you. God has helped me a lot! I would not have been able to do all the things that I did with out God'd help. If you trust God and believe in God with all your heart, God will most definitely help you.

I'm sorry that this advice isn't much but I'm not 22 yet so I don't really know what you are really going through. But that is what I do. Again, sorry.

It helps me and I hope it helps you too.

Keep Calm and Carry on :)

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Vaheguru Ji Ki Fathe!

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