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Lots of things happening at once

asked 2018-09-09 01:44:37 -0600

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updated 2018-09-09 01:47:15 -0600

I had a lot happen this summer. I got surgery, my basement flooded, 11 deaths, threatened by a man that he would kill me, criticized by the aunties for various reasons, doing a sort of internship so i'm working 80-100 hrs a week. I'm standing up for what's right at my workplace so people got mad at me that i'm exposing the truth of their behaviours. I was sick from the stress- vomiting, heaviness in my chest, headaches, muscle pains. I am trying to go back to basics eating well, sleeping, simran, kirtan, and connection to God. It's made a huge difference in just 3 days after two months of going downhill. It has happened all so fast i didn't get time to process things properly and release them to God. I'm finding I'm holding on because it was just so much at once. The way i'm surviving is the skills i learned previously (having gone through actually harder times than this!). Stopping my workplace internship thing is not really a viable option at present but is in the back of my mind if i absolutely need to. I am now realizing and accepting that it may take more time than i expected and to allow myself that time. Sometimes in these scenarios we get blind to being able to see clearly so I'm looking outside myself to see if anyone else here has a different perspective on moving forward and how i recover.

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answered 2018-09-10 10:22:25 -0600

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updated 2018-09-10 10:29:39 -0600

Wow, you had quite a summer!

There's a line in the Avicii song "Wake Me Up," - "I tried carrying the weight of the world, but I only have two hands."

You say, "I'm standing up for what's right at my workplace, so people got mad at me that i'm exposing the truth of their behaviours." Hmm... there's a way to do this by example, with kindness and compassion. You demonstrate a more graceful manner in which to respond. When you confront directly, that action creates a reaction. The sum of all the reactive energy being directed at you can be incredibly draining. People change from within. You can create more change with openness and simple loving kindness than by direct confrontation, especially when you fight alone. When hearts are soft then you can plant seeds through your words and they will germinate when the time is right.

When your world is agitated, the water becomes muddy and you cannot see clearly. When the water sits and becomes still, the mud all settles to the bottom and the water becomes clear again. The most powerful action has its root in stillness.

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unfortunately it is actually a matter of life and death in my workplace- the inappropriate actions have led to deaths so it needed to be confronted directly through a formal complaints process, not in a mean way but in a way that says that things need to change.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-09-10 14:42:42 -0600 )edit

it was a real injustice seen by many but no one was willing to speak about it because they were scared of repercussions to their own careers. No one likes it to be revealed they are acting unethically though and thats where the backlash comes from.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-09-10 14:43:56 -0600 )edit

I've asked the opinion of many of my mentors and the only answer they had was to move forward and speak up for those who are vulnerable which is why i'm doing it. Maybe i'll let things settle as you said and reassess how to address it. I like your points.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-09-10 14:46:39 -0600 )edit

OK, now I understand. My wife, Guruka Kaur, served as a surgical nurse for over 25 years. Then it becomes not about changing people, but rather changing procedures. As you know, it's hard to do this in text. Much easier via voice.

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2018-09-10 16:10:07 -0600 )edit

and then it becomes (as your subject line implies) about self-healing. That means creating boundaries so you can have space to rebuild. I know you understand that already, so I shall simply send you much love and many blessings from Guru Ji's Sangat here.

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2018-09-10 16:12:47 -0600 )edit

answered 2019-11-13 10:01:47 -0600

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Guru Nanak Dev ji has said;

God puts suffering in life just like a potter puts pot on stove, in some he pours milk some are left on stove forever,

Some suffer and learn the purpose of life, some keep suffering till the end,

Suffering forces one to wake up from a dream.

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