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my family is forcing to do many things that i don't like how can i prevent that ?

asked 2017-02-24 05:03:46 -0600

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updated 2017-03-23 14:40:43 -0600

Guruka Singh gravatar image

hi there i'm balu from kerela and i'm writting this because of my family and my family members i'm a 17 year old boy at till this age i did't do anything at my own choice because of my family my family members are forcing me to cut my hair and shave my beard what can i do ? is there any answer for this question ? i cry everyday but nothing happens my family my father is strict guy who never mind an other guys opinion and me and my young brother who is 18 right now is also compelled to cut his hair and shave his beard and we are not allowed to talk to any of our friends and none of our friends is not allowed to meet us and he is trying to make us in his own wish and we are not even to look into mobile phones and my father is a bank cleark but he never let us to buy any shoes or dresses if we ask him o buy us something then he'll buy us cheap clothes and other things and my mother is a teacher but his sallery is my fathers hand and my mother has to beg in front of him for her choices and he always use bad language to call my mom, brother & me and wen anyone askes him about these wierd things then he shouts and answers like this that " i'm doing this to make my young ones and family good " i don;t know what to do please answer me with good solutions !

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answered 2017-03-02 09:53:58 -0600

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Hello Balu Ji - Welcome to the SikhNet Q&A forum! You are 17 and under your parents thumb until you reach seniority and are legally entitled to make your own decisions. Until then, know that Guru Ji knows what is in your heart. This is time to work on yourself to develop and strengthen your own daily spiritual practice. In your ralationship with your family work on being graceful under all circumstances. Keep an open heart and be kind to everyone, even your father. Remember that he is going to do what he is going to do. You cannot change him. You can pray for him and be patient with him. Basically, make yourself an example of how you wish everyone else would behave. Guru Ji will arrange your affairs. Your hairs will grow back and your life circumstances will change. All things come from God and all things go to God. For now, keep up and do your very best. Let it unfold.

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answered 2017-03-21 16:00:31 -0600

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No.. dont ever think of cutting ur kesh.u will seperate urself from khalsa brotherhood n guruji.remember all the sacrifices of our gurujis and shaheeds for the sake of sikhi and kesh.u will regret it later. Rather try to convince ur father by politely telling him of sikh history.go to some religious person(not any fake baba) and ask for help.let them talk to ur father helps Watever is happening wid u is not right.he is ur father so he certainly wants ur gud.try to win him over wid lot of love n patience. But u guys really need gud sangat.pls go to gurudwaras or religious congregations and talk to mahapurushs there.DO SIMRAN TOGETHER at any time in ur will do wonders in ur family life.dont skip nitnems and do ardas to waheguruji all d time for better times.

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