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Confused about friendship

asked 2013-11-12 01:27:51 -0600

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I met this guy a while back but he recently came back into my life as friend again. He is a great person but i am just not sure if I want to continue talking to him. Because I don't believe that a guy and girl can be friends they eventually start falling for each other. Also in our Indian community a girls respect is very important so I don't want others to see us together in public and make a big deal out of our friendship. So I have decided to keep my distant from him . Do you guys think my reasoning is logical ?

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answered 2013-11-12 03:19:16 -0600

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Whaeguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fathe.

I don't exactly agree with you about how a guy and a girl can't just be friends. I think that they can. I have many guys who are my friends and I have no feeling for them at all. I respect them as my brothers like my Guru told me to. I'm very well aware of the Indian culture and I stay well away from guys from school if I see them anywhere in public. It's not my parents, they trust me, its the Indian society they will make up stories where ever possible. Its best to be alert.

I think that your decision to keep a distance is a very respectable and wise thing to do. I totally understand, and I would do the same thing.

Bhul chuck maff karna ji.

Whaeguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fathe.

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answered 2015-09-04 18:38:10 -0600

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Yeah see this stuff is complicated. It is very rare that both parties dont feel anything(esp if both are young and raging hormones). And if u want to be friends with him you have to be very open about it. Ie make sure parents know he is a friend. Sikhi is about being pargat (open), there is no need for hiding. As long as ur parents know he is a friend does it matter what anyone says. always in life try to please your guru, and not people. if u cant be open about it then there is a chor (thief) in ur heart and it will take u away from god. Because god is true (satguru)

So yeah point is if you are true at heart and see him as a friend only no lust (nothing bad like that) you can be friends. But since its very hard to do as a young person, cutting him off is a logical thing u did. Focus on your relationship to god :))

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