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Emotional attachment to friend

asked 2017-03-11 23:05:28 -0600

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updated 2017-03-21 15:33:17 -0600

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I have noticed that I do become emotionally attached to one person . I am not sure if it comes from a place of insecurity . So my friends are non Indian , non Sikh. Recently I have noticed that that one friend I thought was a good girl and I considered myself close to her , she has been acting different , just something about her seems different . She has started hanging out with other people and last night went out drinking and I am only finding about this right now . I just never thought that I cared so much until now , I always end up feeling emotionally attached to Atleast one person. Because obviously I want to have friends . But my values and morals I feel like isolate myself (not that I would change them) I still want to have a sense of belonging in the world Help

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answered 2017-03-12 03:15:31 -0600

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Not only you but most of us are emotional human beings and my perception is if a person is not emotional then there is something seriously wrong with him/her. We can advise our friends as to what we think is morally right but we cannot change them and even if your friends do understand as to what you are saying is correct, it will take a long time for them to transform themselves, so stop worrying about your friends and colleagues.

It's impossible for a person to change his/her drinking habits, his/her sexual activities, his/her lifestyle in a day Though it's our ethical obligation to give correct advise to our friends but do not expect a sudden change and even there is a possibility that they might not change at all. Keep doing Ardas and Simran of Dhan Guru Nanak.

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answered 2017-03-13 11:14:28 -0600

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Your feelings are natural. Everyone has a longing to belong. Everyone needs love and intimacy. When you stick to your values and never compromise them for benefits, then the world will move around you and you will naturally have new companions and the old ones will fall away. That's what happens when you have a deep commitment to spiritual values in your life. It's not that you reject anyone, nor do they outrightly reject you, it's just that you gravitate towards people who up-level you, support you, inspire you and never judge you. It's a natural process. That's how Sadhsangat forms. Never cling to a relationship because you want something or feel that you need something from the other person. Those relationships will not last. Rather be true to yourself, stay open-hearted and go out and be with and serve others. Then like-minded people will naturally gravitate towards you.

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