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asked 2017-12-01 00:43:46 -0600

strongKaur gravatar image

updated 2017-12-20 10:55:27 -0600

Just a minor thing i want some input on. I limited on my friends list on facebook to people who are really connected to me and I feel are sangat that will bring me in a positive direction. I never add anyone i don't know in person because of safety reasons. I get a lot of friend requests from strangers who want to talk, "marry me" or just say hi. I used to block people because it made me uncomfortable that a stranger wants to marry me! Now I think that's mean and maybe i should just tell people i dont add anyone i dont know for real? but i feel like just even saying that could start a conversation and end up going down a path i dont want. if i ignore it, i feel that people will just be waiting. Especially if we live in the same town and they see me around at the Gurdwara wondering why i didn't add them. I guess i want to know what is a good balance of being kind, but not breaking my values of what's important to me which is not adding strangers to my circle of trust. There's a friend request pending now and a bunch of unanswered messages, including some complements from random guys. I'm stuck in an uncomfortable space of not wanting to be rude and not wanting to talk to them.

update: okay so i tried just saying that I don't add people I don't know, and the guy sent me a message saying that we have mutual friends in common, and he normally doesn't talk to girls, and he sent me a copy of one of my own profile photos (of me wearing a dastar) saying this is why he wants to friend me... This is pretty much exactly what i wanted to avoid!!!

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answered 2017-12-20 16:57:01 -0600

Guruka Singh gravatar image

Well, you said it. Facebook friends are mostly not real friends. Most people use social media to promote their own personas. The trouble comes when others want something from you. You do not have to respond to anyone. Just let it lie and don't respond unless you know the person and trust them.

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thanks Guruka Singh Ji. I wasn't sure if it was rude of me not to respond. I really appreciate having the you confirm that my initial instincts were right and i should trust my intuition :)

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2017-12-20 17:50:21 -0600 )edit

Always! You always know the truth within nine seconds. Then you begin thinking :-)

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2017-12-21 17:20:12 -0600 )edit

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