Interacting with guys on social media
Just a minor thing i want some input on. I limited on my friends list on facebook to people who are really connected to me and I feel are sangat that will bring me in a positive direction. I never add anyone i don't know in person because of safety reasons. I get a lot of friend requests from strangers who want to talk, "marry me" or just say hi. I used to block people because it made me uncomfortable that a stranger wants to marry me! Now I think that's mean and maybe i should just tell people i dont add anyone i dont know for real? but i feel like just even saying that could start a conversation and end up going down a path i dont want. if i ignore it, i feel that people will just be waiting. Especially if we live in the same town and they see me around at the Gurdwara wondering why i didn't add them. I guess i want to know what is a good balance of being kind, but not breaking my values of what's important to me which is not adding strangers to my circle of trust. There's a friend request pending now and a bunch of unanswered messages, including some complements from random guys. I'm stuck in an uncomfortable space of not wanting to be rude and not wanting to talk to them.
update: okay so i tried just saying that I don't add people I don't know, and the guy sent me a message saying that we have mutual friends in common, and he normally doesn't talk to girls, and he sent me a copy of one of my own profile photos (of me wearing a dastar) saying this is why he wants to friend me... This is pretty much exactly what i wanted to avoid!!!
