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My husband is Amritdhaari Sikh and he is divorcing me

asked 2017-04-06 22:33:15 -0500

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updated 2017-04-06 22:34:21 -0500

My husband is Amritdhaari Sikh and he is divorcing me after 6 months of marriage and i suffered domestic violence and abuse and making false criminal charges on me. I was married here and came from India and was confiend at home for 6 months..there were many daily instances of differential treatment with me and of abuse with me daily..i still believed that my husband loved me but after he put me through the most horrible situation, i still can't let go fo the feeling fo love towards him..everyone is saying I am saved by Waheguru but why do i still want to be with..i still want to talk to him once..i was thrown out of their house in a demeaning way and still i have feelings for him..why? What should i do...he has applied for divorce too and i dont want to divorce him..i love him truly and i have no one to go back parents are not homeless in a foreign country..why did he do this to me after all this sikhi talk at his home and i was to take Amrit with him on this Baisakhi..why is this happening?

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answered 2017-04-07 23:51:42 -0500

HBSingh16 gravatar image

i am not in uk but in usa and i do not want to leave my husband.. we have restraining orders between us for no contact..he and his family threw me out..sikh community gave me shelter and now i am fighting my cases and i still dont know why i love him even after such abuse from him and his family..maybe it was my fault too but my husband changed after marriage and he grew distant from me.what should i do

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answered 2017-04-07 16:00:21 -0500

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Oh My God. I am so sorry to hear of your plight. But You have to carry on. If a man being Amritdhari can do this don't expect any different. I lost my wife to cancer in Nov 2016 and I am completely shattered, i wasn't even Amritdhari! I just loved her so much and did everything that i could used up all the money, time and energy, i had and even went into debts of thousands of pounds, family members are not even talking to me properly, I have 2 boys 13 and 10 and I would love to help you, I go to the Gurudwara regularly and cry my heart out everyday! You have to find peace in Waheguru's Jap, I am still not Amritdhari but would love to be one one day, I hope there is a way we could exchange contacts and meet up and if things work out between us, may be Waheguru has sent you for another mission and not to be with him and his abusive family? When i got married I told my In laws quite strictly that I was totally against dowry of any kind and any gifts etc, I managed for many years with work i had and separated from my sister to make my own house with my wife we live together in this house for 9 yrs and last 3 yrs she was getting more and more ill. Not a day Have i shouted at her! i always respected her and loved her dearly! Think about it very hard a person does not have to be Amritdhari to be a nice person, their core is damaged and that cannot be changed! You may also talk to organisations like Southall Black sisters they are very good at these things! Or a similar one in your area! Take care. Waheguru!

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bhul chuk maaf

sanjlon gravatar imagesanjlon ( 2017-04-08 18:01:08 -0500 )edit

answered 2017-04-10 09:42:26 -0500

Wahe2 gravatar image

I am Sikh girl from USA and I went through similar situation few years back. let me know if I can help you in some way. Here is my email: [email protected]

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i will contact you ji..thanks

HBSingh16 gravatar imageHBSingh16 ( 2017-04-10 11:51:17 -0500 )edit

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