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2015-09-24 17:51:36 -0500 answered a question superstition

My grand mother use to say the same thing, "don't wash it Monday, Wednesday, Friday) I thought it was just crazy superstition. However, I asked her about it one day, and she said washing too often dries out your scalp and damages your hair. I Googled it, and it turns out it is bad to wash your hair daily. It recommended every 2 days for long hair, 3 for short.

2015-09-24 17:46:18 -0500 answered a question Guidance please

Prayer is always important, but I usually view that as being a personal thing. What I find gives people true happiness is helping other people. Maybe you try doing some volunteering or help out some of your family members more. Keep building your social network too. Maybe you should try finding a new skill in life or getting some more education.

2015-09-24 17:41:12 -0500 answered a question children and babies

Actually infants and children do hold prejudice. There are cases were a twin has intentionally strangled their sibling for more attention. This is usually associated with sociopathy.

2015-09-24 17:38:04 -0500 answered a question foundation of your identity

Well if you feel like your floating you probably have some kind of medical problem. Maybe take some iron supplements or eat more protein. Those are common issues associated with faintness. I don't really like these strange comments, and I am very worried about you. I suggest you seek medical help. You may have a mental health issue. Sikhism is not a mystical religion. While you will feel profound inner happiness, god will not make you fly or break the laws of gravity. I have inner peace too I think, but I still feel like I'm on the ground except when I'm in a boat or plane.

I'm glad you decided to live Gurmukh, but many people do and end up failing in their commitments. I wish you success, but I'm not sure what your goal was by posting this. Furthermore, there are many other ways to live within and outside of those two above parameters.

2015-09-24 17:29:33 -0500 answered a question um ha this question

I don't think it is wrong to kill things humanely. Insects, like flies and mosquitos don't have nervous systems like humans. Don't just kill things for fun or entertainment though. Mosquitos can cause infections and flies can carry around feces, so if they are in your house or near you, go ahead and kill them quickly.

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2015-09-24 17:16:27 -0500 answered a question Why do half the modern sikh men stick/tie thier beard ?

The gurus never said people aren't allowed to tie their beards. They also didn't say we can't wear runners or drive cars. It is a personal choice and there is nothing wrong with. Many people believed that during early Sikh battles some Singh warriors would tie back their beards. I'm not sure about this. However, I still think it is very easy to see a Sikh even if their beard is tied back. Maybe people think it looks neater, or it is easier to manage. These are both valid points, I think. Maybe they just want to.

I know Sikhs in modern militaries have to keep their beards tied back in case of chemical weapon usage. This allows them to apply wax and gas masks more easily. However, the formal tradition started during British India as part of uniform standards, so it became mainstream around the late 1800s. You will notice in many pictures of this era that many men would tie back their beards. It may have been the majority of men did this.

2015-09-24 17:06:48 -0500 answered a question forcing friendships

Perhaps you don't need to rely on anyone, but you can choose to. If you have so much love then share it with the rest of humanity and help other people to fend off loneliness and any challenges they face.

You should always try to be natural and not put on an act, but sometimes you need to make an effort to seem nice, friendly, and approachable. This can be hard, but it is important. It is an important part of being a human to be socialize and help one another. You need to "go above and beyond" to show this. In order to serve the faith you need to thin about other peoples needs and taking an interest in them. How can you serve, if you don't understand peoples feelings and needs? Perhaps, you just need to find people with similar beliefs and interests.

I find it somewhat strange, how you phrased this question. Being a recluse is not the way to reach happiness and enlightenment. How are you going to "uplift people", if you never interact with them. There is not some magical love power flowing out of your heart that is going to solve problems and uplift people. That is not how Sikhism works, to show your love you need to act. The Gurus also had an extremely immense love in their souls, but we know this because of their actions of compassion, kindness, and selfless service to other people. Not, because they had some magic love force coming out of their hearts.

This may just be a stage, but loneliness can cause depression and other serious issues. Spiritually, living as an isolated recluse is not looked upon favourably by Sikhism.

2015-09-24 16:51:45 -0500 answered a question Is a Sikh girl allowed to have a crush on a guy from a different religion?

Being 14 is much too young for any kind of romantic relationship. It is completely normal to have certain feelings for the opposite gender. However, you must control and restrain these feelings, because if you pursue the relationship it will not be healthy or proper.

When you have completed your education and have matured substantially. Then you will be ready to look for a partner in life. Ideally, another person who is also mature and stable. I don't believe that they need to be the same faith, but I think they should respect all belief systems that help humanity, including Sikhism. They should also share similar values like respect, honesty, and hard work.

I also think the whole concept of having boyfriends and girlfriends is bad.

For example, when I was younger many of my friends were girls of different faiths (Jews, Atheists, Muslims). I found some of them attractive, but I knew it would be better to wait and mature before starting any kind of romantic relationship.

If you like this boy, it should not be because he is simply attractive. You should evaluate his personality, beliefs, and ethics. It would be fine to become friends with him, as long as that doesn't include any romance. When you are older, if you have a very good friendship and believe he is a good person, maybe it would be a good idea to get engaged and eventually marry. I think as long as he is a good person, smart, and hardworking, your parents will be fine with him.

I also don't think you should make him change his faith. That is his choice, and Sikhism is against coercing people into another religion. I think inter-faith marriage is fine, as long as neither person is seriously baptized.

Also, your parents and friends may suggest certain partners to you when you are older. You should seriously consider their suggestions, because ultimately they have your best at heart. However, it is fine to disagree with their suggestions. You should always love who you marry, whether that be someone you find yourself or someone introduced to you.

When you are older, maybe you could try asking your parents very respectfully, what kind of qualities you should look for in a husband. That will give you an idea of what they hope for.

Ultimately though, don't just marry some uneducated hick your parents introduce to you, because he has land or something like that. You will have to live with him for 60 years.

Again, work and study hard, be disciplined, and make good friends. Start searching for a serious partner when you are ready to get engaged and married.

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2015-09-22 22:28:51 -0500 answered a question how to deal with siblings

Sometimes, you can only be so loving. Some people just do not understand love, logic, or reason. The first time, I suggest finding something to keep them busy and productive. Not TV, but something productive, school work, prayers, chores, sports.... The second time, tell them sternly to please be quiet. Don't yell, mature adults don't yell and get angry, that just adds to the chaos. Be kind and respectful, but strong and serious. The third time, if your parents are okay with it. Give them a little smack. Don't actually hurt them, but just a little tap to embarrass them. Your cousin shouldn't be throwing things either, if he is going to be treated like a person and not a savage, he should behave like a person. Try discussing the behaviour of some younger Sikh heroes with him. Tell him that successful people, who truly serve God, work and study hard. You can also try to bring out his competitive nature. I use to have my younger cousins compete in sports and school work. They all worked way harder and were way nicer to me.

2015-09-22 22:18:59 -0500 answered a question blind faith?

I am a Canadian biology student, so maybe I can help you. Yes, evolution is correct and it is a fact. Sikhism actually fully supports it, because it supports all rational trains of thought. There are a number of theories about the first cell, some believe it was created spontaneously as you said above. Please consider that while scientists have made experiments, the chance of such a random occurrence happening experimentally, is very small, because while the first cell had 2.8B years to develop those experiments only lasted weeks at most. The earth is also much larger. Some scientists believe that the first cell was introduced by a foreign body. Also consider that scientists do not know the precise conditions on earth at the time of the first cell, they are making scientific hypothesis on the conditions. Furthermore, new cells may be being created spontaneously now, but they would most likely be very rare, and we are not observing every cell on earth to see where it comes from.

Atheists don't shake other peoples faith either. They have their own beliefs, and we have our own beliefs. They do not necessarily contradict us or shake us, they just don't believe in god. That is okay.

There may also be a chance that nobody is listening to your prayers, but that doesn't matter. You should still pray, because it helps you to organize your thoughts. Also, you never really know with any faith if it's working, but if you feel enough of a connection, I suggest you continue, even if no one is listening.

The best way to be close to God, is to serve God, by making the world a better place and helping humanity.

*I am Sikh, but I don't understand many of the Punjabi words you are using, so please try to use all English next time or give definitions. Thanks.

2015-09-22 22:06:54 -0500 answered a question Recommend me traditional sikh wedding cards??

Any conservative and appropriate wedding card is a Sikh wedding card. It should be nice and of good quality, but not too flashy. I don't imagine their is a specific "Sikh" wedding card. It is just colourful paper. Most religions use very similar ones.

2015-09-22 22:03:57 -0500 answered a question Is it wrong to see porn ?

Everyone else has given excellent answers, but I also wanted to point out that many people involved in the porn industry are exploited and abused. By watching porn, not only are you harming yourself, but you are also hurting these very vulnerable and damaged people and continuing a bad cycle where desperate people are forced into this terrible industry.

2015-09-22 17:41:06 -0500 answered a question I am currently in school right now and have to wake up and get ready at 6 o'clock. I wake up at 2:30 do ishnaan and do naam simran for about an hour and then my nitnem around 4 o'clock before the sun is up. Is that OK?

That is definitely not okay for a child. Children need to sleep at least 9 hours a night. It is medically required. Once you over 16, you can bring it down to 8 hours. If you don't sleep properly it will have very serious consequences for your mental health and energy. Soldier saints can't be tired and exhausted, nor face mental degradation. If you do simran from 2:30 and finish school around 3:30, 11 hours of your day are used. With the other 4 hours you need to study (2 hours), eat (1 hour), shower and dress (1 hour), and do work (3 hours). You don't have 18 daylight hours. Besides that I'm sure you also want to socialize and do other things.

I believe that some people pray for hours on end, and it accomplishes nothing. In order to accomplish things and serve Sikhism, you must also act and learn. You must make yourself better for society. When I was in military training and university. I didn't always have time to do phat, but that is okay, because I was working to help Sikhs and serving the religion and our people. You are in school, but by learning and improving yourself you are also serving God.

I'm sure that bettering yourself and serving humanity and the faith, rather then waking up at ridiculous times to pray is a much better way of living.