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Will Guru Ji forgive me? Will he still love me?

asked 2016-03-14 20:06:42 -0600

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I'm a young girl, I started watching dirty stuff online and it kept on going for almost 2 years. I regret it and regret it. I always ask Guru ji for forgiveness, but I still fall into the urges. But this time I started to slow down a bit. I stopped watching kaam but I still sometimes think about it. Now I feel really guilty for doing so! I hate myself so much on why I would get attracted to kaam! I believe in Guru ji dearly. Everyday I ask him to forgive me breaking the promises on to stop watching kaam and even watching it. I don't know if I have been forgiven or not. Sometimes I cry and feel like I'll just end up going to Hell in the end and not meeting Guru Ji at all. I love Guru Ji dearly, and I can't live life if I don't know if he loves me or not. But I have been saying waheguru a lot and doing a lot of path and reading Hukunmana. But I still feel like I don't deserve all the things in life Guru Ji has given me because I'm such a horrible sinner on watching this dirty kaam. No Sikh girl would ever do such a thing like i did. I feel so guilty and heart broken. I even feel terrible for hiding this from my parents and I'm very scared to tell them because they will hate me for the rest of my life. Please give me an answer! I need some advice!

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answered 2016-03-15 13:20:35 -0600

gn gravatar image

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Sorat'h, Fifth Mehl:

We are filthy, and You are immaculate, O Creator Lord; we are worthless, and You are the Great Giver.

We are fools, and You are wise and all-knowing. You are the knower of all things. ||1||

O Lord, this is what we are, and this is what You are.

We are sinners, and You are the Destroyer of sins. Your abode is so beautiful, O Lord and Master. ||Pause||

You fashion all, and having fashioned them, You bless them. You bestow upon them soul, body and the breath of life.

We are worthless - we have no virtue at all; please, bless us with Your gift, O Merciful Lord and Master. ||2||

You do good for us, but we do not see it as good; You are kind and compassionate, forever and ever.

You are the Giver of peace, the Primal Lord, the Architect of Destiny; please, save us, Your children! ||3||

You are the treasure, eternal Lord King; all beings and creatures beg of You.

Says Nanak, such is our condition; please, Lord, keep us on the Path of the Saints. ||4||6||17||

Link to Shabad

Your not the only Sikh that does this, me and many others are stuck in the same problem. I will post some links with advice below. But don't waste time in guilt, just have faith and deep on trying.

You can get advice for females on the above forums as well, as highlighted in the last link females have the same problem.

It going to be a tough battle, but remember a Khalsa fights the battle everyday. Do Ardaas and carry on.

Sat Sri Akaal

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Is it wrong that I didn't tell my parents? I'm way too scared to tell them but I still feel horrible not telling them.

Sikhgirl678 gravatar imageSikhgirl678 ( 2016-03-16 07:12:30 -0600 )edit

No its fine, a lot of young people go through this phase. It is embracing tell parents these types of things, so don't worry about it. Why don't you try posting in the forums above an older Sighni will help you out.

gn gravatar imagegn ( 2016-03-16 07:59:35 -0600 )edit

Okay, thank you. I'll try to ask them. I just hope my karma is gone and that Guru ji still trusts me that I'm trying to give up kaam and that I want to be close to him and not commit another sin. I just hope he forgives me

Sikhgirl678 gravatar imageSikhgirl678 ( 2016-03-16 08:12:15 -0600 )edit

Just remember we are always going to make mistakes and commit sins, don't beat your self about it. Remember when we do something bad, we should learn (sikh) from it and carry on. Guilt is a waste of time, which can be put to better use.

gn gravatar imagegn ( 2016-03-16 16:20:35 -0600 )edit

Okay. Just to make sure, it's not wrong to hide this from my parents right? And Guru Ji will forgive me even though I committed this sin many times and I couldn't stop. Sorry to bother you, but I just want to move on with Guru Ji and make sure he hears how much I want to change.

Sikhgirl678 gravatar imageSikhgirl678 ( 2016-03-17 21:23:54 -0600 )edit

answered 2017-06-25 12:21:48 -0600

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I had the same problem . I still do. I feel like I'm using my guru Ji. I Love my guru Ji very much but I just can't stop. It's like an addiction. I lie to my parents . I feel like I'm using my guru Ji as whenever I have a problem I will go to him as ask him to solve it n when it's solved then I will stop doing paath until another problem. I am having lots of boy problems and friend problems. I just want my guru Ji to love me and show me the right path . I cant go on this way I just feel so tight in my body. I hate myself sometimes I don't know what to do sometimes I feel like I can see ghosts or it's just my imagination I don't know .

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Check this forum and and, you're not the only one with this.

gn gravatar imagegn ( 2017-06-26 13:09:03 -0600 )edit

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