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How do i forgive others? [closed]

asked 2016-09-05 13:24:25 -0600

strongKaur gravatar image

I have forgiven even very hurtful things from people i love because i have compassion and understanding and know them well enough to put myself in their shoes and understand they didn't mean harm. But i have trouble letting go of little things that other people have done or said in the past. They aren't even as important in the scheme of life but i can't seem to let them go and i think its just dead weight i am carrying. Those relationships were not the close, deep ones so i often wasn't able to understand why someone would do such a thing or use such hurtful words, etc. I think that ultimately this comes from not seeing that we should love all equally, but i'm really not there yet. So, how do i move on from all of those little things which are holding me back?

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answered 2016-09-06 13:38:59 -0600

Guruka Singh gravatar image

Please watch this video: Forgiveness and Letting Go

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thank you, this really answered it for me.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2016-09-11 16:48:48 -0600 )edit

answered 2016-09-06 05:45:07 -0600

Not at all Punjabi gravatar image

OMG! forgiving others for little things or for bigger issues that they have conspired against due to animosity is unheard of in this age of Kaliyug. The reason being we humans are filled with ego and when a person is filled with ego how can we expect qualities like forgiveness, love, compassion, caring, and sharing from him/her?

Though Sikhism stresses on doing Simran, Sewa, and Santokh but even then to be honest for Egoist person like me who has been trying for years to achieve the above mentioned qualities have gone in vain. I have been trying my level best to get rid of Ego so that i too can forgive others for little things but deep inside my heart knows that i can achieve those qualities only the day i am blessed by the Guru.

So, the answer to your question lies with the Ultimate Guru.......................................................

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answered 2019-11-13 10:13:26 -0600

teraBanda gravatar image

ਫਰੀਦਾ ਬੁਰੇ ਦਾ ਭਲਾ ਕਰਿ ਗੁਸਾ ਮਨਿ ਨ ਹਢਾਇ ॥ ਦੇਹੀ ਰੋਗੁ ਨ ਲਗਈ ਪਲੈ ਸਭੁ ਕਿਛੁ ਪਾਇ ॥

Fareed, do not think ill of those, who kicked you when you were down. Doing so, the only thing to gain is the disease they are suffering.

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