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asked 2012-11-27 06:24:20 -0500

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Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh. I am a girl from India, a sikh 27 years old. I have always tried to be this good religious girl, for my whole life i had no relationship. first to tell my past mistakes which i am never proud about, feel so much guilt and the age of 25 i met a guy online and i fell in love with him, it ended for 3-4 months in which i showed the guy my body 7-8 online(i never wanted to), he was overseas so i never met him in real. he lied and he left me, i am glad he left me otherwise i was gonna keep doing it to please him. then at the age of 27 i got attracted to my senior married doctor (i am a nurse) i never thought of him that way but one day on new year he came and kissed me and since then i started feeling for him, told myself to hold back and not to act wrong, but my bad karma i met him thrice as he would always ask me to and got a bit physical with him but no intercourse and even getting physical with him meant nothing to me because i knew i was wrong and i couldn't feel anything i would always be in guilt with him. i could understand that if the soul is not with you the body can't feel anything. whew!! well to start the real problem now is that around 2005 one of my mom's best friend who is in the UK wanted me as her daughter in law, her son being born and brought up in the UK never showed interest in me and we never talked but i always had this wait inside me that one day i will meet that guy and we will get married, i loved his mom a lot and she always called us and loved us. so after soo many years this august 2012 he finally came to talk to me, i had always waited for him, we were talking on skype everything was going so good, my mistake was that without giving him a chance to ask me about any bf i told him myself that i have been with no guy, because i had taught myself and my friends also told me not to tell anything i thought an online rel. for 3-4 months is nothing and that doc was never my bf, just a silly mistake i made in attraction or lust. so after 3 weeks i told him that i am hiding something from you, though he himself had sexual relationships, went to the pubs and clubs enjoyed his i told him everything i stated above about my past, he got angry and decided to stop talking to me. he was angry that i lied to him. i did apologize several times. after 3-4 days he ... (more)

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answered 2012-11-27 07:45:03 -0500

unknownkaur gravatar image

You are so brave that you actually told everything...Guru SAhib Ji knows don't worry...

Just move forward now...and it's best to accept whatever happened than to keep feeling guilty about it...sometimes things happen for a good reason...maybe the guy in the UK was not best for you...hence due to one reason or another it didn't work out.

Just trust God...He will always guide you in the right direction...He always wants the best for have faith...Guru SAhib ji has someone special in place for you...

God bless you...

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he was born and brought up in the Uk, he told me that i could had told him everything after 10 years but i lied. but i just hope God makes me meet the right guy, a bit open minded one who won't keep digging in my past. i don't worry much about my past as much as being an honest person.

peace gravatar imagepeace ( 2012-11-27 08:00:44 -0500 )edit

just hope God will help me and i will never worry about my past. living an honest life is not so easy.

peace gravatar imagepeace ( 2012-11-27 08:01:29 -0500 )edit

Guru Sahib ji will bless you with a wonderful person your job is to Trust Him. He only does things for our good past is gone can never come back so why worry just have faith in Guru SAhib Ji as He arranges all affairs i have been through similar situation & I know how difficult is it to accept. tc

unknownkaur gravatar imageunknownkaur ( 2012-11-27 08:12:53 -0500 )edit

yeah i just pray everyday and anything is possible in His world, so He can take all my worries away and bless me with a comfortable honest life. He will guide me through and always protect me need my faith in Him, 100%faith. thank you for your kind and uplifting words.

peace gravatar imagepeace ( 2012-11-27 08:19:48 -0500 )edit

No Worries Jeeo....i'm nobody to thank...we can only thank Him for being so kind to us....I really wish Guru Sahib Ji Blesses you with a wonderful life partner...god bless you jeeo....

unknownkaur gravatar imageunknownkaur ( 2012-11-27 08:23:56 -0500 )edit

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