Fight,Argument and so many things comes when both husband wife don't understand each other feelings and specially when they are not dependent on each other.In other words one said i can do every thing by my self and other said if you can do then why can't i ? In our Community,Normally female wants to dominate male in each style and manner which ever she has seen in her early times.If they are having different taste then again contradiction starts and it becomes to abuse.This is called "SANJOG" which built and comes from Akalpurkh Dargaha,so spiritually you guys are made for each other that's why you end up here in this life.Being a Lonely and experienced female i can advice you my brother/sister please work on it.Try to eliminate your ego as much as you can.No one is with me NOW when whole bunch of people were there to whom i followed and listen.I want you to read or listen Itihaas of GURU AMAR DASS JI,although all guru's are one Jot.It will make you humble,sehajta and nimarta in you.Just work on it hard,try to listen then you will get listened,give respect then you will get respect,care you will get automatically care,love from heart you will in her/his heart by your self.Don't let kaljug heavy on you means outside world.Do at least one SUKHMANI SAHIB, path a day,
ਅਸਟਪਦੀ ॥
ਸਿਮਰਉ ਸਿਮਰਿ ਸਿਮਰਿ ਸੁਖੁ ਪਾਵਉ,, Meditate, meditate, meditate in remembrance of Him, and find peace ਕਲਿ ਕਲੇਸ ਤਨ ਮਾਹਿ ਮਿਟਾਵਉ,,Worry and anguish shall be dispelled from your body.
Bulchuk De Mafee,
A KAUR(ASIKH)
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