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How to be firm in sikhi

asked 2019-07-24 08:14:18 -0500

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Often at times i go off the path the sikhi when I become discouraged, when I see that my nature has not changed or I'm not feeling love for God. Sometimes it feels that I'm uttering god's praises at a cremation ground , because at some points I don't have that love for God. My question is do we continue with paath even if u don't feel a connection? Or will u over time develop a connection with God again? I have these up and down periods in sikhi when I am imbued with God and feeling Anand bliss and feel yearning for God and other times when I feel disconnected from God and then abruptly stop paath and simran. How do I become so firm in sikhi so that I stay doing my nitnem daily without worrying about the things going on in life? I feel that people who do their nitnem daily are such happy people and have such perfect destiny. How do I develop a steadfast faith and how do I not waver when disaster hits?

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answered 2019-07-24 09:53:14 -0500

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updated 2019-07-24 13:04:41 -0500

You feel disconnected from God in downs of life because you take life too seriously, when it isn't even real as per Gurbani

ਮਾਧਵੇ ਕਿਆ ਕਹੀਐ ਭ੍ਰਮੁ ਐਸਾ ॥ O Lord, what can I say about such an illusion?

ਜੈਸਾ ਮਾਨੀਐ ਹੋਇ ਨ ਤੈਸਾ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Things are not as they seem. ||1||Pause||

ਨਰਪਤਿ ਏਕੁ ਸਿੰਘਾਸਨਿ ਸੋਇਆ ਸੁਪਨੇ ਭਇਆ ਭਿਖਾਰੀ ॥

It is like the king, who falls asleep upon his throne, and dreams that he is a beggar.


Dreams also feel real; but they aren't

ਏਹੁ ਪਿਰਮੁ ਪਿਆਲਾ ਖਸਮ ਕਾ ਜੈ ਭਾਵੈ ਤੈ ਦੇਇ ॥੧੩॥

Eaehu Piram Piaalaa Khasam Kaa Jai Bhaavai Thai Dhaee ||13||

This cup of loving devotion belongs to our Lord and Master; He gives it to whomever He likes. ||13||

God gives the enlightenment to who he wishes, so you can pray that you may also be gifted

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Yes u are right, but sometimes this life feels so real, it is very difficult to covert my foolish intellect to this spiritual insight from Guru Ji. I wish there was a way to embed this into my heart, so that my mind actually understands this.

Truthseeker2001 gravatar imageTruthseeker2001 ( 2019-07-24 11:58:48 -0500 )edit

answered 2019-07-24 12:35:05 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

The connection comes only through the heart. Chanting (Japa) with full heart in Sadhsangat is an excellent way to keep the heart open. You lose the connection when you get into your own thoughts and forget Naam. Only daily practice will build your foundation. When you begin it's hard and requires effort to keep up, but as you become settled in to the state of aradhana it becomes automatic. Remember, your own discipline is the key. Make the habits that build your foundation.

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Sometimes i feel to tired to do all morning prayers for nitnem, is okay if i do Simran and only japji sahib, rehras sahib (evening) and kirtan sohila (before bed)? Then slowly build my way up to doing all of the morning prayers. What if sometimes i don't feel motivated, do i just force myself.

Truthseeker2001 gravatar imageTruthseeker2001 ( 2019-07-24 13:12:29 -0500 )edit

Take it easy my freind

Jaipreet Singh gravatar imageJaipreet Singh ( 2019-07-25 04:13:46 -0500 )edit

It's all okay. Develop the habit. Let it come from your heart.

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2019-07-26 15:13:48 -0500 )edit

Don't demoralize yourself brother, it happens to me too, I do Japji, Rehras and Sohila and I have been Sikh Sahajdhari for not even a year, God accepts your efforts.

Servant.of.Waheguru gravatar imageServant.of.Waheguru ( 2019-10-27 21:54:11 -0500 )edit

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