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Is 30 mins of Simran enough to grow spiritually- daily in the mornings without Nitnem?

asked 2018-12-07 11:00:24 -0600

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updated 2018-12-10 12:19:26 -0600

Guruka Singh gravatar image

So recently i have not been doing as well academically as i should be doing (my A levels), and now my mum has stopped me from doing my Nitnem as a result. I keep telling her that the Guru is my life, and i'd rather die than be without him. But she keeps saying that she will send me to my Dad's house, if i don't stop doing Nitnem(they're divorced). The reason is that she wants me to use the mornings to study. I've told her already that i will do the studying afterschool and forget watching TV from now on as a sacrifice, but she still won't accept that.

Right now, i don't know what to do. What solution can i say to her to convince her to let me do my paath? I will also do ardas later to seek advice from Guru ji. Is 30 mins of Simran enough to grow spiritually- daily in the mornings without Nitnem. I can say this honestly that it will kill me if i can't, i'm saying this because i've already felt the anand(bliss) of Nitnem and Simran and i want to kill the 5 vices of Kam, krodh, lobh, moh, and hankar to be the person that Waheguru want us to be.

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answered 2018-12-10 12:12:22 -0600

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No one can tell another what is sufficient for that person. Your mom feels responsible for you and is focused on your academic performance. Your daily sadhana is always first priority, but you still have to perform in the "material world" and be excellent. Both are required. If that means going to bed earlier and getting up before your mom, then that is what you do. Don't lie to her. Be loving, firm, smiling and kind. Speak gently with sweetness and then follow through. Don't try to manipulate your home situation or argue with your mom. The trick of life is to find out who you really are, not who others want you to be, and then purposefully be that with joy.

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answered 2018-12-11 01:50:27 -0600

Tarran Singh gravatar image

I personally had the exact same situation when I was doing A-levels - I would be trying to work on mediating and nitnem in the mornings before school, and my parents were very much alienated by that. What worked for me was to trust Guru Maharaj and kindly ask for his support, and trust in the power of the meditative practice. The meditation is clearing your mind, especially with other practices like Yoga and doing your nitnem. Thus I ended up doing much better in my exams because I was much clearer. If you want to do better in your studies, so as to keep your parents happy, these practices will support you, as will healthy lifestyle, exercise etc... Serving people, say at the Gurudwara will also do you a help - remember that God helps those that help others.

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