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Do an amritdhari girl is required to cover her head always?

asked 2019-03-06 06:07:03 -0600

Kaurageous gravatar image

Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh ji Waheguru ji, Its been 4 years since I have taken Amrit. I cover my head while reciting gurbani or doing path. But I don't cover my head all the time. I know that our kesh need to be covered.. It is there in the 52 hukams of Guru Gobind Singh ji. I also don't feel a problem in that. Infact I want to wear Dastar also but can't do it for some reasons. I am pursuing graduation and I go to college daily. I once wore dumalla for a samagam and I didn't wanted to take it off but I had to.. So, I started covering my head with a stall afterwards. But whenever there is a function or something, my friends who also are Amritdharis, but don't cover their heads, they ask me to remove the stall.. Atleast in the photographs. I also have heard from people that outside looks don't matter. This is dhong as I am not free from the 5 evils.. I have Ego, I get angry at small things. If I can't change my attitude, If I am not pure from inside.. Then wearing a stall always, and not attending functions, avoiding social interactions, not wearing earrings or doing make up.. These all things are of waste. Also the day I have started to forgone these things, My friends taunt me by saying bhagat ji.. Mahapursho Kind of words. These do feel good to hear but they can also increase the level of ego I have. We shouldn't hear praises for ourselves. Those who praise us, come to steal what we have earned while meditating. These things make people think that I am very religious and spiritual. Bhagat Namdev ji was so spiritual but no one knew about his spirituality. We should meditate while maintaining secrecy. I am very confused about all these things. I don't know what should I do.. Also my sister said that whatever I decide, I should maintain that thing my entire life. So if I chose to cover my head, I should do that all the time or not at all. Putting a stall whenever I feel like.. Is dhong and I should never do that. I am really confused about what Is right. Please guide me the right path sangat ji! Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh ji

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answered 2019-03-08 10:32:51 -0600

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There are really two issues here. The first is your relationship to your own bana. When you are in duality about your bana it is a reflection of a deeper duality in your own mind. It is really about your relationship with yourself. When we wrap turban before going in public, we enjoy a special kind of protection. That relationship deepens until our bana is a part of us. It is perfect to stand out. That is who we are. The second issue is your relationship to other people. It's basically allowing other people's judgements and opinions to affect you in a way that you no longer see yourself and your own identity clearly. If someone makes fun of your bana, it is your blessing. Time to smile, bless, serve and keep going. People will say and do whatever they are going to say and do. It is not about you. Your identity lies in your relationship to Guruji. The stronger and deeper that is, so deep will be your strength, faith and grace.

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answered 2019-03-12 00:59:03 -0600

Kaurageous gravatar image

Veerji you are right. I am confused between the 2 sides of the same thing and I don't know which one should I believe and follow. Both sides have their own value and perception. The thing is my parents also don't support me in this and it's like me versus all the people I know. Also I have no one to motivate me that what I am doing is right. People believe this is kattarta. Is it bad that I don't want to stand out. I prefer getting mixed among people so that no one could notice me, but the things I do grabs the attention of people and I don't like being noticed.

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Standing out does not mean being prideful. It means accepting your destiny and honoring your relationship with Guruji in this incarnation. Be who you are and that is that. BTW, I love your handle. Courageous! Getting motivated yet? @;-)##

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2019-03-12 16:37:22 -0600 )edit

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