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Is this a God ordained relationship?

asked 2018-12-03 21:26:11 -0600

Ishpreet gravatar image

updated 2018-12-03 21:28:46 -0600

So I have a guy bestfriend and we have been friends for more than 4 years and this person is the best gift from God after my family. He help me grew in many aspects, because of him i am more closer to god. He cares for me alot and we actually act like a couple... Idk we just connect so deeply I really have no words for this connection... I have changed alot (in a good way) because of him.. he is alot matured person than his age. I have had 2 relationships in the past which didn't went well and God used to give me big red flags but I ignored it and now I am pretty careful after that. I met my best frnd unexpectedly when I was with my last boyfrnd and after some time I broke up with my boyfrnd because he was toxic lyk hell for me and no one liked him... Problem is I think I am falling for my bestfrnd but I don't want to get hurt again. We both are punjabis and he is few months older than me, he is ambitious and hard working and doing wonders in his career... I have met his family and I am really close to them too.. my parents like him as a friend and this is for the first time they approved a guy frnd... My friends lyk him. He has his own faults too but they are not even major. He is a really good person at heart. He even says that I am a part of his family and whenever he talks about future he includes me.. he even said that he would be the luckiest person alive on this earth if he wud marry me. He values me alot and he always treats me like a priority But he says lets god unfold this situation naturally and just go with the flow. I don't want to just blindly go with the flow cos m scared to get hurt again what if he is not my future husband? I evn askd for signs from god but I get confusing answers in the form of dreams and I really don't know if the answers are from god cos they are sometimes negative and sometimes positive. I just want to follow guru's hukam and I want to kNow if he is the one so I can move forward. We had our ups and downs but with time I understand him even more now. The best way to describe him is that he is like my dad.. the way my dad loves and cares for my mom idk how he does the same for me.. his nature Is also alot similar like my dad. All I know is the way I connect with him and the way he makes me feel as if I am back to home.,makes me feel so safe. He is the only one who ... (more)

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answered 2018-12-04 10:22:22 -0600

Guruka Singh gravatar image

You say "we just connect so deeply I really have no words for this connection..." and "He help me grew in many aspects, because of him i am more closer to god." These indicate that there is a soul-to-soul relationship here. This bodes extremely well for marriage. It's time to be up front about your feelings with this fellow. Walk and talk together and gracefully start discussing the possibilities. Just be honest. Then bring this discussion to your parents and tell them. Let things unfold naturally.

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answered 2018-12-04 01:08:49 -0600

Tryingtobasikh gravatar image

Waheguru Jio,

All I know from your passage is that he's a great guy and mature too. Your family also seems to like him and so do you (you're just scared that you'll get hurt or he's not your future husband). The thing is, you can't know for sure if he's your future husband, and so the best way is talk to your family about it. If you're at the age where you'll soon get married, then talk to them about it. They will give you the best advice. God's will is that whatever you sow is what you will reap. So sow the seeds of talking to him and your parents, thus, getting the answer as a result. It will be fine. God cares for everyone and whatever happens is also according to his will (to make you whoever you are today). Don't waste this opportunity and go for whatever feels right. Waheguru ji mehr karn :) Bhul chuk muaf.

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