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I was forced to remove my Dastaar, Kirpan, Kanga and Kachera. What do I do?

asked 2018-09-03 20:07:10 -0500

Guru ji di singhni gravatar image

updated 2018-09-04 11:28:43 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

So, I was forced by my parents to remove the 5 K’s of sikhism (except my kara) because they are against the idea of me becoming a gursikh. I Kept the rehat but it was broken by my mom. Whenever i do path they yell and scream and disturb my praying. There is no peace and love ib my house. They are both sikhs too but I want to become amritdhari and now I was forced to remove my identity but from inside im still Gursikh. What should i do now? I want to wear my dastaar but if i do my parents will lose their minds.

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answered 2018-09-03 23:46:46 -0500

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki fateh,

This sounds like a very troublesome situation and if they're sikh I don't know why they're against the idea of you following rehat. However, sometimes we get put into tough situations but we must fight through it. One becomes a sikh by following guru ji's teachings, and that happens on an inner level. If they're against your outer looks, they might snatch it but not the love you contain for guru ji. I advice you to stay strong and once you become more independent (i.e through marriage or living separately) you can tie a dastaar. Many men prefer or don't mind their other half wearing a dastaar, so, ready yourself, follow your nitnem and implement the teachings you learn. Through guru's grace i'm sure you can place the 5 k's back on again, later in life. On the other hand, sit down with them and talk to them about how badly you want to be a certain way, however, do it in a low tone and not aggressively, that wont help. This is all my opinion, I hope I helped out a little. Bhul Chuk Muaf.

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nice answer. I would add that if they yell and scream to disturb the praying, the prayers can be done internally without others knowing or alternatively out of the home at the gurdwara sahib etc. the other question is why the parents changed their mind when you were wearing the 5 Ks already?

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-09-04 00:58:53 -0500 )edit

Thank you so much that honestly really helped me. And To be honest I dont know why they changed their mind about it. Thank you so much though I know exactly what i should do:) Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

Guru ji di singhni gravatar imageGuru ji di singhni ( 2018-09-04 09:02:17 -0500 )edit

Sending our love and support bhenji!

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-09-04 20:38:44 -0500 )edit

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