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asked 2018-06-21 16:40:39 -0600

Baagi Singh gravatar image

Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji fateh ji

Khalsa ji i am in canada from last 6years and i am all alone since then i dont have many friends.whenever i see an amritdhari girl i feel all alone and really wanted to have soneone who i can share my life with.but because of some reasons i cant seems to find anyone who i can talk to

It makes me really sad and i feel i am gonna be all alone my entire life

Its my personl problembut i want you guys to help me out

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answered 2018-06-26 13:55:25 -0600

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WJKK WJKF. I think it's normal when you're at that age to start to feel a pull to have a companion. Have you talked to your family about finding someone for you? It can certainly be lonely when you have moved away from everyone you knew to a new country, and depending on where you live in Canada it can be isolating. I think it is important to distinguish the feeling of wanting a companion with needing someone to fill the loneliness. Maybe you are experiencing both. No one else will probably ever be able to do the job of filling that gap. In my own experience, my loneliness gap was a spiritual gap and once I started to fill it with the love of God, there was less feeling of loneliness even though I actually have less people around me now than before. Other people cannot really fill that gap, and throwing the expectation on them to puts a lot of pressure on them to fill something that can only be filled on your own path. I'm trying to say don't expect someone else to fill that. At the same time, sangat can be helpful. If you don't have many friends, then spend time at the Gurdwara Sahib, to develop sangat that inspires you and helps you on your spiritual path.

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answered 2018-06-28 22:22:03 -0600

Baagi Singh gravatar image

Thank you so much khalsa ji but where i live there is no sangat no gurudwara for miles the closest one is about 800km away so there is no way i can go therel. So no sangat no gurudwara i have talked to my parents they said they might not be able to find a suitable singhni for me so they ask me find myself.

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I understand, living in an isolated place like that is very difficult. Best chance is probably meeting other sangat at camps, etc. on vacation. Maybe if your parents have not been able to find someone then trust that this is not the right time and God will send you the right person when it is.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-06-29 02:10:43 -0600 )edit

In terms of meeting people you said "because of some reasons i cant seems to find anyone who i can talk to"- is that shyness or some other reason?

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-06-29 02:12:12 -0600 )edit

Remember we are always here for you to talk to as your online sangat when you feel the loneliness and the challenge of being so far away from others you can chat with about similar issues.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-06-29 02:14:24 -0600 )edit

I think the reason i said i cant seems to find someone who i can talk to is maybe bcz i come too strong on thek maybe i am to needy i text alot maybe i am annoying which j dont do on purpose but i am not shy

Baagi Singh gravatar imageBaagi Singh ( 2018-07-03 02:42:07 -0600 )edit

Personally, I don't think that's needy. It's just a difference in the level of emotional connection and talking that different people prefer. Some people like that, some don't. The right person for you will appreciate that feature :)

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-07-03 18:49:50 -0600 )edit

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