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maya seems to take over

asked 2016-12-07 20:11:36 -0500

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When I say Maya I don't mean money. Instead I mean a major crush on someone. He is of the same religion and I think he also likes me. Sometimes I obsess about him so much and I try not to. I have had a crush on him for almost a year. I do Ardas to get over this crush and that I don't do anything bad. My Ardas is also for forgiveness for my lowly thinking because despite the fact that I should consider him my brother, I just can't get over the crush. I am 17 and he just turned 18. I keep telling myself that I am still kinda young but to no avail.

Please help, I really want to stop thinking about him. I can't stop seeing him though because we learn Gatka together and we see each other at the Gurdwara.

Forgive me please and please tell me what to do...

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answered 2016-12-08 01:32:22 -0500

Not at all Punjabi gravatar image

Having a crush on someone is not at all bad but since you are too young even if you enter into a relationship it would be difficult for you to be fully committed to a relationship with a person who himself is too young and neither of you are mature enough to understand the gravity or seriousness required in a committed relationship.

But still you can be friends with this guy, learning Gatka together is good and might be both of you can learn a lot from each other.

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answered 2016-12-08 15:32:03 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

It's normal to have a crush like this, so first of all, stop thinking that you are "bad" for having these thoughts. It's ok. The question is how does it affect your words and actions? You know, whatever you think about grows larger in your world. Having some creative projects outside of schoolwork and things to channel your energy like dance, yoga, sports or journaling will help too. Ultimately you will need to learn how to control your own mind and that comes through regular japa and meditation.

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