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2019-03-17 02:07:33 -0600 answered a question Need help with unhappy/ Forced arranged marriage?

Can you give us more details for example, how old are you? Do you live outside India etc.

2019-02-10 12:20:11 -0600 answered a question Can a jatt not have a surname
2017-11-29 18:18:50 -0600 answered a question are we as sikhs allowed to fall in love
2017-09-11 03:44:25 -0600 answered a question How to get Gurbani fonts on a mac?
2017-07-15 11:49:40 -0600 answered a question Shabad For Eyesight

Have you checked your eyes with your doctor or Ophthalmologist? VJKK VJKF /Cloud

2017-07-01 17:33:29 -0600 answered a question What are the kinds of headwear that are acceptable for a non-Sikh man to wear in a Gurudwara?

Short answer: No. Go with the "handkerchief" or scarf.

A short outdated video showing a introduction to a Gurdwara to a newcomer.

(Cultural differences may vary).

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Your First Visit to a Sikh Gurdwara - YouTube

2017-06-30 16:50:40 -0600 answered a question kushwant Singh and other historic writer's reputations

I think this will answer most of your questions altough it is biased from a missionary standpoint.

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The WhyGuru Course TWGC - YouTube Playlist

2017-05-10 07:29:21 -0600 answered a question "Supernatural" Powers
2017-04-19 11:23:18 -0600 commented answer Bani to cure cancer

Do you live in punjab?

2017-04-19 11:17:25 -0600 commented answer Why not marry Sikh men?

Do you have a story that you want to share Lavender Singh?

2017-04-07 16:16:35 -0600 answered a question My husband is Amritdhaari Sikh and he is divorcing me after domestic violence and abuse .i still believed that my husband loved me I can't let go of the feeling of love towards him

You still want to be with your husband because you are ill and suffering from Battered Woman Syndrome.

What you should do now is to call sikhhelpline like gn suggested.

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Sikh Helpline Saves Girl

Here Guruka explains about what Amrit is.

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Taking Amrit & Commitment

If you have any other questions please ask penji.

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2017-03-30 17:30:21 -0600 answered a question Are Boys allowed to Watch porn and masturbate

There is alot of talk of what is not right about masturbation and sikhism.

There is no talk about why or how we started to masturbate. Why do we even masturbate? What are the underlying causes? Here is a good video.

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YouTube Video - NoFap Benefits After 2 Years: What Has Changed?

There are alot of thing that are anti sikh in the video. But if you get the essence of the video, it will help you greatly. Basically do alot of physical excercise.

2017-03-26 02:57:43 -0600 answered a question Any solution to stop hair fall?
2017-02-27 17:55:38 -0600 answered a question facial hair
2016-12-09 19:14:50 -0600 answered a question Why don't amritdharis do nothing about Guru Granth Sahib ji beedbi?

They are learning it.

Both amrit dharis and preordained amrit dharis with their destinies written on their foreheads.

From the internet. https://www.sikhnet.com/stories

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Speech by Bhai Jagraj Singh - YouTube Video

You can show the world but will they buy gurus sikhism? Maybe it is time for you to learn about parchar? There are parcharak school in United Kingdoms.

2016-11-01 12:07:30 -0600 answered a question onkar satnam karta purkh nirbau nirvare

Wow even ghosts pay karma. Reminds me of this story.

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Death's Proud Messenger - Sikh Stories for Children

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2016-10-31 04:01:41 -0600 answered a question Sikhnet Stories for Children ???

I can not find it either.

For educational purposes you can use this instead. Altough this has a much more political message.

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Bandi Chor Divas - YouTube

2016-10-22 04:35:51 -0600 commented answer how to respond to sexual harassment
2016-10-22 00:17:48 -0600 answered a question how to respond to sexual harassment

In my country if your in a labour or trade unions for that specific field for example in healthcare you can turn to them for help. In this time of globalization the trade unions still have many members and are still influential in my country. Maybe you can contact your respective trade union by email and ask them how to deal with your situation in your country?

2016-10-08 10:39:35 -0600 answered a question Can I be a Sikh without the turban and beard? I am Danish.

Waheguru ji ka khalsa, Waheguru ji ki fateh!

I have been to Denmark myself a couple of years ago and I understand your thinking that having a turban and a beard after 9/11 will give you problems. May these videos help you with your question.

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Why do Sikhs wear Turbans? Long Hair?

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The Purpose of Hair - YouTube

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The Body Temple - YouTube

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Why Do Sikhs Keep Their Hair? - YouTube

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Why Do Sikhs Wear Turbans? - YouTube

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2016-10-01 14:53:29 -0600 answered a question Why Sikhs are in a mode of complete denial?

If the discussion is about starting missionary work on sikhism I'm all for it. Let's take the responsibility on our shoulders of leadership for a better tomorrow and start giving 10% of our net income / dasvandh / tithe towards organisations like Basics of Sikhi.

But then again, will we do it?

Now this will be my personal opinion and I try to use a better way of communicating :

Punjabi sikhs have one view of sikhi which they share on facebook and put words that guru like "Before following dharma, be a human" - Guru Nanak.

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However as you learn in school and university, you have to always check your sources when writing a scientific journal.

Now what is our source in sikhism? Shri Guru Granth Sahib. Did guru nanak say that? No. Guru Nanak did not say that.

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Where are we getting our Sikhi from? - YouTube

Sri Guru Granth sahib says other thing which breaks alot of these false ideas on what sikhism is to the punjabi sikhs. By preaching bani, sikh teachings and history , alot of them will abandon sikhi on what they thought sikhi was for their purposes and join other religions like christianity and consumerism.

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Punjabi Culture has today mutated from a culture on survivability to a mix of survivability and heavy influences of consumerism which made it to such a grotesque creature that wreck havoc in peoples lives, families and environment.

It is all about consuming: Consuming family, friends, drugs, information, food, pleasures, religion and material things etc.

And alot of punjabi youth have to choose between punjabi culture and the western culture of consumerism.

Which is like Between a rock and a hard place.

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We have to give them a better alternative.

One big problem facing us is Information consumption like Snapchat, whatsapp, social media etc.

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Information Constipation - YouTube

Baljit Singh from Basics of Sikhi also have made a video which I can not find at the moment.

Enough of my ranting. I am not going to write words, I will speak them with my actions by funding Basics of Sikhi and helping with the missionary parchaar stuff.

And about sikh leadership. It has not been in power since Shiromani Gurdwara Parbandhak Committee or SGPC was formed 150 years ago. But if the sangha choose you to become the next leader would you do it?

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Awakening to Leadership - YouTube

I do not know if Jagraj Singh beef is with Jats but I think you do not have to worry about the Jats. Before speaking of that hot topic potato I just want to mention that I was born in the jat tribe and if I remember correctly Jagraj Singh himself is also born to the jat tribe. Not that it makes a difference since it seems like his research led him to make that assessment that outside forces used jat tribe own nature for their own purposes and the destruction that followed as we see today.

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2016-09-27 11:05:50 -0600 answered a question I do unbroken and i mean unbroken prayers for many many years. Sitting in sickness/financial problems/no friends..........the list is endless..........where is the peace?

Where is the peace...indeed.

Can you please elaborate?

  • What kind of sickness? Symptoms of (occupational) burnout?
  • What kind of financial problems? Student debts?
  • About your lack of friends, where do you live? Do you do sewa? It is a good way in my experiance to gain friends etc.

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2016-09-14 10:02:17 -0600 answered a question Can deep psychological blocks be cleared by doing Seva?

Usually this is forum is more of Questions and answers, Q & A. There is another forum for discussions such as these over here: https://www.sikhnet.com/discussion/

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2016-09-13 07:44:17 -0600 answered a question What to do about unwanted physical hairs?

I have personally have gone through a surgery and the hair was removed where the surgery took place (throat). The reason it did not break Sikh Code of Conduct is because it will grow back by itself.

It depends on the situation and intention.

I understand where this question comes from. To follow gurus hukam on kesh seems rather stupid in this day and age, alot of young sikhs ask why? The only satisfactory answer I have been given is that I have to experiance the "why" when going into this Guru's way by myself.

And many that do walk this way which the Gurus have written in our forehead, keep their kesh the last before taking amrit.

Why has this same question asked as long as 17 years since this forum beginning? source

Let me give you my perspective.

Young sikh sons and daughters watch porn and social media which parents have no control over what their kids are watching on their parents cell phones. Young kids watch pornstars with no hair on their body and is subconsciously social conditioned to think that in order to have a happy and succesful life you have to look like a pornstar which also includes lack of body hair. Especially kids with no balance in their lives are affected by a much greater rate.

Body hair is seemed as weed growing in a piece of land for farming. Like weed it has to be removed and farming terms are used as "manscaping".

Basically, there are alot of videos on youtube on "sikhism + hair". Many find them unsatisfactory to their question about why keeping them. The only hukam I know of hair is Guru Gobind Singhs hukam that we should be distinguishable with keeping kesh and avoiding halal and hukkah. http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Kurehat

As you meditate more and develop your "spiritual disclipline" and you become more tuned in to yourself..you will find that you have changed of thinking and by automatically you will keep your hair on your body.

Arguing about kesh or no kesh will be an endless discussion. My response to that is to be proactive instead.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IXprNOMFxYg

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6y-fjk4uyX8

Good luck /Cloud

2016-08-25 05:11:11 -0600 commented answer how to destroy black magic

You are welcome. WJKK WJKF

2016-08-18 23:09:15 -0600 answered a question Do we really decide anything?
2016-08-06 11:49:10 -0600 commented answer marriage against family?

Are your parents hindu? In that case I have to give a completly diffrent answer.

2016-08-04 14:28:45 -0600 commented answer marriage against family?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFyE5PCjZMA is what I can give you an answer at this moment. However I do not know the rest of the answer. But when I look at your text, for me your decision on getting married is not set on a permanent frequency when you take that decision.

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2016-08-04 14:18:36 -0600 commented answer marriage against family?

Your parents have made their decision. And you want to marry him. We can not affect our parents but we can affect our own reaction like I wrote in the "Do not worry playlist". Now your question "If he is not right for me then why did Baba G brought him in my life?" is a good question.

2016-08-04 14:09:02 -0600 commented answer I am unmarried yet.

Thank you for this link Guruka Singh. It will be very useful in the days too come.

2016-08-04 02:25:36 -0600 edited answer Intercaste marriage

I will answer your question with a question.

How will you convince your parents?

The same parents that have been brought up in a family that believes very heavily about the caste system. That teaches their children that if you marry someone outside your caste the children will be casteless.

I have answered same type of questions and these types of questions have been asked more then 16 years since this forum started. Here is an example :http://fateh.sikhnet.com/sikhnet/youth...

Most people in your situation think like this:

"Ok I will find someone with the same caste as me and when I find one they can not refuse because they belong to the same caste. That way my family will be happy and I will get the full support of the whole Family and society will see us as a legitimate couple. And not looked down on society for intercaste marriage like we are murderers.

After I've done that sacrifice, I will make sure when my kids grow up as Amritdhari they will have the full support who they can marry as long as the center of that person is Sri Guru Granth Sahib and the person recognises Gobind as Father and Matha as Mother."

So the answer is I have to find someone in my own caste for a problem free life and marriage?

No.

First you have recognize that you can never make your family happy whatever you do. There was a good video about that from Guruka Singh but I can not remember it at the moment.

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Blood Family and Spiritual Family

Bhai Jagraj Singh has alot of good videos about this topic.

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Sikhs and Caste

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Caste and UK Sikhs: why such a big deal?

Right now just focus reconnecting yourself to Waheguru by concentrating on his name.

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How do I concentrate during Gurdwara?

Good luck.

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2016-08-04 02:15:42 -0600 answered a question marriage against family?

First of all you should NOT do a court marriage.

And before you show this answer to your friends let me tell you the reason I post the videos.

If I did not post the videos the answers would be like a scientific journal long that would take more then 5 pages at least to write and that would be for most people to long to read.

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The solution is in the videos themselves if you care to watch for them.

The first video: Where is my husband, guruka basically says: "If you do not know, do not marry" with more explenation. Your ability to worry all the time will disturb the process of the one the guru choose for you.

How the worry process is hindering your marriage [Press "Play it"]: http://cueyoutube.com/#C3bIFu9kXKw,4UYYzbzGk6s,Ria1t15XgGw,sq7INkuMrh8,

Second video: Your "boyfriend" is not your soulmate, your soul is. Once you start work on yourself with doing amritvela and start reading from your guru the sri guru granth. That boyfriend of yours will not go to the other side with you after death etc. With more explanation. Don't marry your boyfriend to get against your parents etc. That attractive boyfriend of yours will not look as attractive in 7 years etc.

Third video: I'm aware that this video is told as the existance of kundli and manglik are not effecting the decisions of the parents involved but this video is still relevant. First it should be Paragatt (open). Do a hukumnama. The question your parents have to ask themselves is who is greater, the pandits wisdom or the guru when it does come to the hukumnama. Love comes and goes. The meaning of anand karaj is deeper then Namus or an alliance of two families for the survival for the next generation or by marriang upwards.

The vidoes are relevant to your question. However, I will be using CUE Youtube list for future reference when answering so that answers will be more "compact".

Im copying my answer from http://answers.sikhnet.com/question/9693/kundi-matching-manglik-dosha/

Now before we adress the issue of Manglik. Love may be well, but unlike what bollywood and hollywood tells us it is not the only thing that will sustain a healthy marriage. I recommend these videos for yo. Especially the 2nd "Having Relationships" in your case.

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YouTube - Where is my husband?

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Having Relationships - YouTube Video

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Can Sikhs have love marriages?

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The Magic & Fantasy of Love - YouTube Video

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Is having Girlfriend / Boyfriend allowed in Sikhi?

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Dating and Sikhi

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Relationships - How the Guru Helps Us

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My Relationship With The Guru

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MEANING OF MANGLIK IN PUNJABI

Do not forget to ask the very same pandit on what the meaning of manglik is.

Why should we listen to people on the road who to marry when they can not lift themself up from the streets?

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Does being a manglik affect my future?

How should we remedy this? By listen to Shri Guru Granth Sahib!

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Freedom From ... (more)

2016-08-02 06:20:22 -0600 answered a question Is love a bad thing?

Im copying my answer from http://answers.sikhnet.com/question/9800/is-love-a-bad-thing/

Now before we adress the issue of Manglik. Love may be well, but unlike what bollywood and hollywood tells us it is not the only thing that will sustain a healthy marriage. I recommend these videos for yo. Especially the 2nd "Having Relationships" in your case.

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YouTube - Where is my husband?

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Having Relationships - YouTube Video

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Can Sikhs have love marriages?

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The Magic & Fantasy of Love - YouTube Video

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Is having Girlfriend / Boyfriend allowed in Sikhi?

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Dating and Sikhi

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Relationships - How the Guru Helps Us

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My Relationship With The Guru

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MEANING OF MANGLIK IN PUNJABI

Do not forget to ask the very same pandit on what the meaning of manglik is.

Why should we listen to people on the road who to marry when they can not lift themself up from the streets?

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Does being a manglik affect my future?

How should we remedy this? By listen to Shri Guru Granth Sahib!

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Freedom From Karma - YouTube Video

Good luck with everything.

VJKK VJKF! /Cloud

2016-07-31 23:42:13 -0600 commented answer the sensory system of the soul

What was Human 4.0?

2016-07-31 01:34:28 -0600 answered a question i feel like i have no control on myself

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http://www.wikihow.com/Take-Control-of-Your-Life

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http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Your-Life-Back-in-Order

What if in the middle of our life we are not settled? How we need to approach life and how can we be more productive and spend a fulfilled life?

This is a transition period for many people, and often it comes with an empty nest as children leave, dissatisfaction with a career, uncertainty about the future and a often a realization that mortality is quite real. If you're unsettled at this time, it is likely that you need to work through your issues directly rather than running from them. Perhaps it is a time for a new job, new hobby, new friends. Maybe it's time to reconnect with your spouse, your parents and old friends. Spend more time doing the things that matter, like being with family, reflecting on your life and finding that job that sparks you.

How do I increase my motivation, drive, and ambition?

This depends on what your dreams and ambitions are. What does getting your life in order mean to you? Life is messy and never easy, so most of the time it will never be in order. Learn to be happy with the life you have and be grateful for the people who are going through life with you. Getting our life in order could take up to a few days to years. Just be happy with your own life and don't get dragged down into what you think your life should look like.

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2016-07-25 11:13:42 -0600 commented answer Intercaste marriage

thank you. I will update the video.