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Is it acceptable for a married Sikh man to touch an unmarried Non-Sikh woman's skin, even casually?

asked 2016-03-28 14:42:55 -0600

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I met a Sikh man at a place of business. We both talked about culture. He asked me my age. This is not polite in my culture. When I mentioned that you can tell the age of a woman by the sun damage on her skin, he asked to touch my forearm skin. I like talking to him, intellectually, but am unsure of his intentions and would like to know what is accepted in his culture. I have Sikh friends, but am away from them and so can't ask.

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answered 2016-03-28 16:33:22 -0600

strongKaur gravatar image

If you were uncomfortable with it, that’s all that matters, regardless of his intention. No one has the right to touch you if you don’t want to be touched. Trust your gut feeling. To answer your question about acceptable-ness, if he was flirting with you (that’s kind of what it sounds like), then it’s not acceptable because he’s married! He may have just been curious and did ask permission, but the point is that it made you uncomfortable and that’s not acceptable. You don't have to agree to anything that makes you uncomfortable.

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answered 2016-03-29 01:18:26 -0600

Not at all Punjabi gravatar image

As per your post you say, "He asked me my age. This is not polite in my culture". He even took your permission before touching your skin. It seems to me that you are a Moslem hailing from an Islamic background, you can't be a non-Sikh Indian because Indians are quite liberal.

I think you have taken the whole matter too seriously and misunderstood this Sikh guy. I don't think you need to blow it out of proportion. Had i been there in place of this Sikh guy, i would never go ahead doing business with a narrow minded person.

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