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i am a muslim in love with anritdhari silh girl . we love each other can we get married

asked 2013-06-13 20:44:00 -0600

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i am a muslim boy and love an amritdhari girl ....she loves me too ..... is there a way we can get married ?

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answered 2013-06-17 11:15:07 -0600

GodisLove gravatar image

nope no chance of getting married religiously like the above comment says in both a mosque and gudwara. The main reason why most people convert to religion when marriage is involved is because so the religion can carry on and there would be no different views or opinions. I suspect it would be difficult because sikhism and islam are both very different religions--different views and opinions.

In terms of conversion honestly unless your heart and mind is set then do it. Don't convert if you have no desire in your heart otherwise you're living a lie. On the flip side many couples with different religions get along and live a happy life. It is all about how you both feel. You both need to sit down and talk it over because whatever happens will be a huge impact in your life.

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answered 2013-06-27 10:23:32 -0600

Bhai Ravinder Ji gravatar image

tough situation...

simple solution

1- For a amritdhari sikh, its hard to marry another non amritdhari so u may need to convert.

2- if u love a lot to her then change

3- love has no relation, so time may decide the right thing..

God bless u

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answered 2013-06-14 10:40:09 -0600

Sardar Sukhmeet Singh gravatar image

Not in Andaj Kiraj, if you wish to marry her you must first do Amrit Sanchar yourself, if you don't then you can't marry her, there have been many muslims who converted to Sikhi; I am not trying to convert you into Sikhi but if you really want this marriage to last longer than 2 months you have to do it! Watch this youtube video, but I want to say that if you don't want to convert you can still have a civil marriage, not in a mosque, not in a Gurdwara; you will be sitting in a desk getting a marriage without much fun though, Ultimately it is both of your decision to do what you want to do, Islam is not a bad religion, but Sikhs have been persecuted by Muslims in the past and betrayed Watch the youtube video above to see what I mean, Your choice I feel like I may be pressuring you to convert or don't get married, and I feel sorry about that, but in life you always have to give something in order to get something. If you plan on converting her to Islam, your no different than the people in the 2nd video, But I hope your relationship is a great one and to answer your question the answer is NO!!!

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answered 2013-06-19 09:38:11 -0600

akalinihungsingh gravatar image

first of all its not allowed to have love marriages in sikhism as guru sahib told see every men as brother and father ....and same thing in you both don't obey the the teachings....and if you wish to marry her convert her in muslim or you can convert into sikhism...but brother converting into another religion can never result into die of true feelings of previous religion....

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answered 2013-07-24 12:43:21 -0600

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answered 2013-06-27 13:39:02 -0600

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no, no way, not at all. girl think about your parents.

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answered 2014-09-15 06:55:04 -0600

armanispice gravatar image

I was in a similar situation....I am muslim and she was amrithdari. We were crazy about each other...didn't think we could live without one another. Her parents found out through a jealous mutual friends boyfriend and she was made to leave college and move away...We kept in touch and still met one another whenever we could but it was difficult.....because I was still studying and could not travel 3 hours each way during semester.

She eventually decided to break off, we met to say a difficult goodbye. 18 months down the road we were back in touch with each other..she declared her love to me once again...We met a few times and it was like nothing had happened. Then one day she called me saying that her parents wanted her to get married and had a prospective groom in mind. Things didn't work out between us...she started planning for her weeding and we broke all contact...

20 years down the road she is now divorced with a child, no longer practising Sikhism as she used to but still believed in the principles of Sikhism. I have seen her on her social media and often look through her details..I don't want to connect with her now incase she gets some false hope as I am happily married now.

Such is life...sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. ..We have to remember that we will all die and need to account for our deeds...treating all humans fairly and equally is important no one person is better than the other if God is not pleased with that person.

Peace to all.

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answered 2015-09-17 12:14:56 -0600

its ur n tht girl wish wdr u cn marry eachodr o nt bt i wnt to ask if ur sistr fall in love wid an amrit dhari sikh would u allow her to marry hm o would u ask tht questn publicly hw u did dis i dun thnk so bcz ur sistr is ur pride n dis show hw much u love tht girl regrdn whm u din tk a sec to spk publcly..

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answered 2015-09-17 12:38:11 -0600

Jazzy gravatar image

I would really be interested in knowing what situation could have been had it be "the other way". Muslims would have called for a jihad and probably the girl could have been killed in what we term as "honour killing".

Ideally speaking there is no problem but practically speaking Islamic practitioners in today's world happen to be the most intolerant people and they widely hold the view that covert as many people to Islam and get a sure shot ticket to heaven, and when it comes to girl getting married to other religion's guy then all hue and cry is made in the name of allah. Thats an apt example of hypocrisy which is disliked by all non-muslims, hence in that context the girl will never get approval of her society and it will make her parent's life hell.

SO IF YOU LOVE HER REALLY FORGET ABOUT MARRIAGE, don't get converted either yourself. Coz Sikhs never believe in forceful or coercive conversion.

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