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2019-12-09 22:50:36 -0600 commented answer how do i learn about managing finances?

great points, I agree. Yet in all practicality one needs to learn how to survive in this world too and the life skill of basic finances is extremely important so you don't end up on the streets.

2019-12-09 22:48:31 -0600 answered a question I'm 14 years old, my mom wants to kick me out. What to do?

Hi, your mom can't call the police and have you kicked out for no reason. rather she doesn't yield the power to do that. someone has to be responsible for minors, whether its the government or your parents. as Guruka Singh said what else is going on? I think it is useful to understand the situation as a whole to give better advice.

2019-12-09 18:56:45 -0600 asked a question how do i learn about managing finances?

This sounds ridiculous but I know pretty much nothing about personal finances and banking. My parents have managed all that for me up to now, and all I know is basically how to login to my account and transfer funds. I dont know anything about banking terms, or even what interest is accumulating on my credit-line etc. I know I'm not the only one in this predicament and a lot of young punjabi women don't get taught this. I always kind of thought maybe after I'd get married my husband will manage the money and now I'm realizing I need to learn this for myself. Where do I start? When I go to the bank i have no idea what they are talking about. Up till now I just signed what my parents told me to sign (I realize how horrible that sounds but its true!). I have a lot owing due to my schooling.

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2019-11-14 22:12:54 -0600 commented answer one fundamental question

thanks appreciated.

2019-11-13 16:18:36 -0600 commented answer one fundamental question

thanks :) Good advice but I already knew this river quote, I was looking for something more practical which I got from the below answer. Its different to "know" and different to get stuck in knowing something and not being able to move on from it

2019-11-13 16:17:28 -0600 commented answer one fundamental question

thanks Guruka Singh Ji. Much appreciated.

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2019-11-13 02:36:41 -0600 asked a question one fundamental question

I have struggled for months to formulate what my problem is, what is my question. And now I finally understand what it comes down to. I am not understanding how to let go of what was my dream, illusion, etc. whatever you want to call it- my image of what I wanted, and accept what is reality- Hukam. I need to let go of my constant hoping and wishing, and just accept that it isnt happening. It has been so long of just trying to convince myself, telling myself I need to surrender, I need to accept, but I'm not. In the back of my mind I am still hopeful. any tips on how to get out of this daily loop?

2019-08-26 00:35:26 -0600 commented answer Should we question Gurbani?

Almost everyone i know has had bad things happen to them and they survive by their faith

2019-08-20 21:49:22 -0600 answered a question Should we question Gurbani?

Doubt is described very clearly in Gurbani. It is the veil of doubt that prevents us from joining God and seeing Truth. So that in itself reveals that it is a mistaken question. If we are Sikhs, we accept our Guru. The word of God has come directly to our Guru Jis and is written. It is not like Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji is full of stories, it is full of facts. Some of which science is only now starting to realize, and some of which is yet to be realized. It isn't blind faith. One must first accept the path, to have the lived experience and realize how it is actually true. Giani Sant Singh Ji Maskeen's kathas address this - in religion, one must have faith first and then they will realize afterwards.

2019-08-20 01:17:21 -0600 commented answer Guys pls pray that I die soon!!

I agree I have seen it for myself too!

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2019-08-19 00:23:08 -0600 answered a question Guys pls pray that I die soon!!

Waheguru Ji, there is nothing that we cannot move beyond or get through, no matter how bad it seems. I am sorry this has been such a painful struggle. Searching up your symptoms is not the same as seeing a real doctor and someone who can provide you with advice from experience. Dr. Google is wrong in most cases. If you can't talk to your parents, please find someone to talk to that you trust. So I highly recommend you go see someone. Maybe you could take a year off and work instead of going to college, if your family depends on you. If you want to die, I can guarantee that any parent would wish that they were able to help their child in retrospect after they died. In Sikhi, Guru Ji teaches us about the cycle of reincarnation. Your true self isn't this body. I think having some perspective and reading some Hukamnamas may help you. Go into sangat, meet some people. Have you heard of Sarab Rog Ka Aukhad Naam? Look them up, they talk about healing from all causes. Gurbani is healing. Due to the cycle of reincarnation, this human life is special, but you need to figure out how to make it what you need. Otherwise, suicide or dying will not end your pain. Without achieving what you needed (merger with God), you will continue into that cycle. So try to focus on easing your pain and suffering now, go see a doctor, and maybe start reading some Gurbani everyday. I know its not as easy as it sounds when you are in the depths of depression. Everything feels impossible. But that's the depression speaking.

2019-08-19 00:11:14 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

I use the app on my phone, try that too.

2019-08-19 00:11:04 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

or try another browser

2019-08-19 00:10:53 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

because otherwise that looks exactly like my search, except mine has results.

2019-08-19 00:10:42 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

hmm odd. Ok the only thing I can think of is: does it say "sri guru granth sahib ji" as the source on the left? it should. and click gurmukhi keyboard and type it using that keyboard, instead of your own.

2019-08-18 15:45:27 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

sorry i cant see it the link is proken

2019-08-15 12:18:53 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

with no spaces

2019-08-15 12:18:36 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

type ਅਪਸਕ into the igurbani search box

2019-08-15 12:15:47 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

what issue are you having? is it that nothing comes up when you search?

2019-08-15 12:15:01 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

hmm i dont know how to insert a screenshot and I can't see yours

2019-08-13 22:50:37 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

so in igurbani you would just type APSK (aada pappa sassa) for example. Here's the shabad: http://beta.igurbani.com/shabad/866?verseId=11553 The problem with the above english is that sharnagati is one word

2019-08-13 22:50:24 -0600 commented answer How to search Gurbani online fast ?

so in igurbani you would just type APSA (aada pappa sassa) for example. Here's the shabad: http://beta.igurbani.com/shabad/866?verseId=11553 The problem with the above english is that sharnagati is one word

2019-08-12 11:22:14 -0600 answered a question what is inner voice ?

Very interesting question teraBanda, and a great one that we all should be asking. I will explain what knowledge I have received during katha, please forgive me for any mistakes. My understanding is this: We have a body, mind and soul. The body is temporary, a vessel and obviously we are reincarnated over 8.4 million lifeforms and thus the body's appearance changes. The soul is one with God already. The mind is what travels in these lifeforms and is different than the brain. Modern medicine doesn't really deal with the mind. The mind is something that Gurbani teaches us about. The mind is what accumulates the filth of our actions, the mind is what decides what types of thoughts to take. Gurbani tells us there are three types of thoughts we take- Tamogun, Rajogun, and Satogun. It is our personal will that we take whichever thought we take, but we are also influenced by our past. Tamogun thoughts are of kaam, krodh, lob, moh, hankaar, nindiya, chugli, irkha, etc. People who take those thoughts are reborn into water lifeforms. Rajogun thoughts are anxieties and wordly matters, what most of us spend our time thinking about. Satogun is compassion, good thoughts, humility, etc. People who take Rajogun thoughts are reborn on land. People who take satogun are reborn in the sky- birds etc. So our goal is to move about thoughts. That means you walk the path of LIV- a path of love for God. You take good thoughts- but that's not all, you need to stop the mind from creating thoughts altogether. So through simran and all the tools Guru Ji gives us like sangat, kirtan, etc. we can move towards stopping our thoughts. When we focus on the sound of the simran we can stop all other thoughts but one thought- WAHEGURU. Then from there, we learn to listen to Naam, Anhad Bani, and then from there, people move to seeing Jot Parkash, and taking Amrit Ras, and then through to finally their merger with Waheguru. That process of how we live our life is defined in the 4 Laav's- the fourth is the merger with God. So the source is our personal will, but we are influenced by our past and what tendencies we will have to have what types of thoughts, and with God's grace and blessings we walk that path of Liv and the rare person becomes merged.

2019-08-12 11:13:14 -0600 answered a question what is athsath Tirath?

Athsath means 68. My understanding is that people used to believe (in Hinduism) that these 68 places of Pilgrimage would give them Mukhti. So They would suffer and travel to all these places, believing that that would give them what they wanted in life. But Guru Ji is telling us that it is not visiting the pilgrimage sites that will give us Mukhti.

2019-08-12 11:09:13 -0600 answered a question Is Guruka Singh all right?

Good question. Let's assume the best for now and maybe he is just busy or travelling.

2019-08-12 11:07:54 -0600 answered a question Thin line between delusional and Spiritual ?

Actually in psychiatry there is a special exception made for delusions of a spiritual contexts as they need to be understood in the cultural context, so usually they will not ever say that a person is delusional just for spirituality. It is understood that spiritual experiences are different in different backgrounds. If we are a Sikh, we are following Guru Granth Sahib Ji, we accept that as our Truth and follow Guru Ji's advice, that is how we know we are not delusional. That is what is real. Yes it is normal to have an inner voice, that is our own mind telling us to do things. It is an auditory hallucination only when you hear other people's voices, and even then that can be normal depending on the person's age and context.

2019-08-12 11:02:49 -0600 commented answer Guru Granth Sahib Ji Question

Thanks for your answer!

2019-08-12 10:59:31 -0600 answered a question How to search Gurbani online fast ?

Depends on if you know Gurmukhi. If you do, fastest way is igurbani. It's both an app and a website, you type the first letter of each word and search "a P S A" for example. You dont need the whole line but do need at least three letters and the more you put, the more it narrows the search. Srigranth.org if you know the Ang number. People use Sikhitothemax for english but I personally never got the hang of it. That's the fastest way in English- the people at our Gurdwara use it for the projector. Another way to search in English is https://www.searchgurbani.com again with the first letters. Hope that helps!

2019-07-16 02:05:51 -0600 commented question How to handle Internet Trolls within the CyberSangat?

great question!

2019-07-16 02:04:49 -0600 answered a question How to handle Internet Trolls within the CyberSangat?

I would say dont fuel the fire- that wastes your own precious breaths and time and thats what they want. So don't waste time arguing. Find a way to report the post on the appropriate platform otherwise I think just no use in giving it attention.

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2019-07-11 21:58:19 -0600 marked best answer How to stay off social media

I've been finding a lot of my time sucked up by social media. I decided to take a break for my mental wellbeing for a while but I find it addictive somewhat. Any tips on preventing me from going back? I had found myself on there more and more with no benefit to myself.