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is it a Kurhet?

asked 2012-11-01 09:21:06 -0600

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updated 2012-11-01 13:06:36 -0600

Sat sri akal ji, I m a 21 year old amritdhari girl. I was in a relationship with a sikh guy though not an amritdhari for almost three and a half years. Everything was going well until we broke off cz things didnt work out. But during our relationship, i had intense feelings for him n we almost hugged n kissed many tyms though we wr nvr intimate. As per sikh maryada 'par purash da sang krna' is a kurhet. I m feeling guilty abt it. Did i do a kurhet??

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answered 2012-11-01 10:13:42 -0600

Karanjit Singh gravatar image


you know yourself what you did. What do you expect from others to post you? Go to the next Amrit Sanchar and tell them what you did. See their - 5 Pyare - decision as Gurus hukum.

Karanjit Singh

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answered 2012-11-08 16:32:09 -0600

Prabh Kaur gravatar image

updated 2012-11-08 16:33:13 -0600

Hmmm...I am sure you know the answer like Virji said above but dwelling on it isn't going to help now is it?

Pray and you will be fine but learn from your mistake. Us humans know what is right or wrong but we always do what pleases us even if we know it is wrong. Cleanse your mind and soul by doing paath, listening to Gurbani, going to Gurudwara sahib and move on.

Just remember not to do it again!

I know easier said than done but what else can you do now? You cannot cry forever or feel guilty. Just do not repeat it.

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answered 2012-12-05 16:29:08 -0600

Sardar Sukhmeet Singh gravatar image

You are guilty, but not because of adultery, no you are guilty of something else, have you ever heard of something known as Jhoota, that is what you are guilty of, Jhoot is not just food, it is for kissing and having sex, so by Sikh law, you are no longer an Amritdhari, your promise to the Guru is gone, how happy are you, you couldn't wait, you disliked your Guru that much, go and wait till something known as Vaisakhi 2013, it is on the 14th of April, retake the Guru Ji's Amrit, or don't take it, really either way you are not an Amritdhari for like 4 months, but don't worry Guru Ji will give you forgiveness, Guru Ji has the buggest heart in the universe, don't ask us humans, Waheguru is the only good, ask Waheguru

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answered 2012-11-19 13:10:54 -0600

Nihang Gavinpal Singh Khalsa gravatar image

how have thine comitted a mistake having sex befor marrige is what you idi not do so what if u kissed you were inlove and now you arnt end of matter you are the daughter of the guru. what mistake was love?

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