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worldly evil getting to me

asked 2013-09-01 07:03:17 -0500

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Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh,

I am feeling extremely ashamed at the moment having to try to express myself, however I feel that my fellow Sikh brothers and sisters online will help me throughout this rough path. I am an amritdhari 15 year old and everything was going very well until recently i have really felt the urge to wear my hair down. I tie a dastar by the way... dont get me wrong I would never walk out of my house with my hair down let alone public, but I seriously don't want these feelings/thoughts to lead to anything bad. I especially feel guilty because the main reason why I feel this way is because Baba ji has blessed me with very nice long hair that is extremely smooth and silky and light brown in colour...but instead of wanting to take good care of it and continue tying it up in my dastar,like a gursikh should...i am having the urge to show it off to the world like i used to before tying my dastar (been about a year now). Could someone please suggest ways I could overcome these worldly and manmukhi thoughts! Bhul chuk muaf karna. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

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answered 2013-09-01 07:19:23 -0500

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updated 2013-09-01 07:20:26 -0500

dear anonymous,

Sat Nam

These temptations are a part of living as a khalsa. That's the only reason why we call this era as the era of 'kalyug'. It came to Guru Nanak by taking a form of human and said,'Guru Nanak, I am a saint too. I have done so much sadhna. What will you give me?' To this Guru Nanak Dev ji replied,'I give you the power to control the people who don't consider themselves as guru's child or who don't do the banis , don't walk on the path that guru has told them.' This was just an example and answer to you question. You are getting such thoughts because at some point you are lacking behind. Overcome this yourself. Nobody can change your decision until you really mean it.

Chardi Kala,

Mansimran Kaur Khalsa

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answered 2013-09-01 11:57:48 -0500

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Dear Anonymous,

You've stated " I seriously don't want these thoughts/feelings to lead to anything bad", confirm if you truly are "serious", search yourself deep inside and find out what's the root cause of such feelings, could it be your proud of your youth or hair? Are compliments from people around you on your hair influencing such thoughts? Etc. Remember, first a thought, then an action; therefore, disengage the thought and this will significantly weaken the drive of a possible action, To control thoughts, disengage the thoughts, Recite Gurbani and request Guru Ji in your ardas to give you the strength and blessing to overcome these strong feelings. Stay around the company of GurSikhs who also wear Dastars, this way you have role models and support around you. At the moment, avoid watching content or media that shows women with their hair down as that will strengthen the thoughts, watch or read more content about chaste and pious women. Anytime you feel a certain thought is too powerful or the drive to put your hair down is very tempting, immediately drop what you’re doing and recite Gurbani or Naam Simran, focus your attention to something that gives you will power and strength. Don’t feel bad or depressed if you give in, but don’t give up ever, keeping battling the thoughts and asking Guru Ji for strength. Temptation can arise at any point, be ever ready, and recite the Guru's bani. :)

Please forgive me if anything said has been disheartening : )

Yours truly,

  • Namastwang Akaale, Namastwang Kripaale.
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