Ask Your Question

new to this site, explain views on love

asked 2017-12-01 21:31:47 -0500

LostInLife gravatar image

updated 2017-12-04 16:02:10 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

Sat Sri Akaal to all, This is my first time using this site so to those answering please be clear with your answers as this is my first time asking for advice.

I am a high schoolgoing girl and I am a Sikh and I started to develop feelings for this boy (sikh) from my class. He had these same feelings for me and eventually we both fell in love with each other. we plan on getting married in the future, because I know that I want our souls to become one.

My question is, is it wrong to develop feelings for someone according to Sikhi and if it is, why and what can I do to get rid of these feelings?

edit retag flag offensive close merge delete

2 answers

Sort by ยป oldest newest most voted

answered 2017-12-02 04:05:14 -0500

lokesh gravatar image

i think this is you first love and in most of cases it is blind love when people get mature with time the things and mentality changes in many cases people used to leave each other due to his some faces mentality or psychological problems . if you love each other than you both may cross the limits and sometimes may do things which are against parents and guru g , whatever a couple do they think they are right and they do not understand things. if you follow SGGS ji , guruji says to leave 5 things and the emotional attachment comes under these 5 things. if you really love him or love his soul then do whatever guruji says and keep faith guru g will always keep your feelings at equilibrium . if he is your soulmate then he will be your

edit flag offensive delete link more

answered 2017-12-02 02:47:31 -0500

strongKaur gravatar image

it's not wrong to love! love is what the world is based off of. I think there are several reasons why people discourage boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, particularly when you are still in high school/young enough that you aren't actually able to be married. One of them is not really knowing yourself well enough to know what you need and want in life, and in a partner. These things can mold and change over time. We grow and change over time, and it's a different type of growth when you are tied to someone else. Over-attachment can prevent your own growth. In high school our brains are still developing, we are still maturing, especially our decision making ability. So it's that time we might not even have skills to handle what life has ahead. Sexual activity especially because it is emotionally complicated, and there's the risks of STIs and pregnancy which a lot of people don't think through. I guess I'd just say be aware of your growth. Be aware of not making him "everything." there's a chance you could still break up. Have a good sense of who you are and spend time with your own friends, not just always together. Make sure you focus on your spiritual development so that nothing in life has too much pull on you. I feel like it's not about getting rid of the feelings but about being realistic and also focusing on your own development as a person. Have you talked to your parents about this topic?

edit flag offensive delete link more

Question Tools


Asked: 2017-12-01 21:31:47 -0500

Seen: 468 times

Last updated: Dec 02 '17