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Is God Listening to my prayers? My wife passed away with cancer

asked 2017-03-29 16:16:35 -0500

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updated 2017-03-29 16:57:05 -0500

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on Nov 30 2016, she was only 41, she left behind a mourning husband, and 2 very upset children, 13 and 10. While I am trying to get food on the table, take the children to school and do all the house chores, I have now got a letter of possession of the property by the landlord. When the wife was alive we were in the housing priority list, the council showed us 3 properties but she did not think any of them were suitable for her use. Now as i am not on the housing list, and not priority, I have to find a place on my own. Landlords and estate agents will not even talk about viewing a property if i don't earn £40000 minimum per year with evidence. My younger son is looking for his mother and asking me to buy evp equipment(equipment used to find if a place has a ghost or a spirit lurking...in this case his mother's...) and he wants to connect to her on the other side.

Since she passed away, I have been taking the kids to tabla, baja classes to keep them occupied, and going to the gurudwara regularly even every evening for Rehraas Sahib path and Sewa, until now nothing has changed, is God that we call Waheguru so cruel that he cannot listen to 2-3 of my wishes and help us get an affordable place to live? help me find a job? when i am trying my best to follow the way of Sikhi? Is it wrong to ask to ask for help from the so called God? and we his children? does a father not listen to his kids? PLse help.

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answered 2017-03-30 05:01:08 -0500

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Our lives revolve around Karmas, Karmas, and only Karmas. WaheGuru cannot be cruel because justice prevails in the "Scales of Justice" of the WaheGuru but we humans fail to understand HIS justice.

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OK this is a nice way to hide behind Karma, I have heard alot about this word! Why didn't the Gurus teach people how to make THIS life better instead of correcting the past life in this life? And then praying, chanting, living an amritdhari life etc NOW for a better aftermath? When we mortals dont

sanjlon gravatar imagesanjlon ( 2017-03-31 05:02:50 -0500 )edit

And this guy called Yamraj, came in the evening without any notice SUCH A KAAYAAR! person and stole my wifes life! should I be afraid of a person who cannot give you a reason for doing what he is doing?

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answered 2017-03-30 16:04:15 -0500

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updated 2017-03-30 16:37:05 -0500

I'm sorry for your loss, but have faith and keep doing ardaas to Waheguru. Try your best from your side to resolve your problems and no doubt Waheguru will solve these problems for you.

Also contact Sikh helpline http://www.sikhhelpline.com/about-sik... they can help in situations like this.

Also you can ask on more active forums for support:

Bul chuk maf

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answered 2017-03-31 05:13:12 -0500

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Dear Guys, Many thanks for your esteemed advice and good wishes...but this Kismat stuff... is a nice way to hide behind Karma/Kismat, I have heard alot about this word! Why didn't the Gurus teach people how to make THIS life better instead of correcting the past life in this life? And then praying, chanting, living an amritdhari life etc NOW for a better aftermath? When we mortals dont even know what wrongs we did in the past? This is very vague. Almost impossible to deal with! we are living a human life which is supposed to be a very precious life to connect with God but we actually suffering now due to past Karmas? I am very very upset about this there must be a way to find out what we have done so that we can correct it and not do the same mistakes in this life! And to make it worse we dont even know if we did everything in this life the best way we could does God really listen to our plea and forgive us? And how do we know we have been forgiven? Are there any signals? we could sitting in the room doing paath for our whole life and then I come across...Jis nu sifath kare ..Nanak Pathshah hi paatshah? That means the ones who are selected will enjoy the aftermath? So a person could spend their whole life in this cleansing process but as he is not selected he has to go through this 34 million births to become a human again? And this one as well" jai tis nadar na aavei, ta vat na puchai kai" ... Please please help? Alot of Gianijis refuse to answer this question? as well as why did God create Cancer?

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answered 2017-03-31 12:57:16 -0500

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One day at a time. You are doing your best... One day at a time.

The blockage in this situation is coming from your anger. You are seeing only your own anger and frustration - railing at the seeming injustice of life and at what has happened to your family. Within even the most seemingly horrible situation there lies a blessing. As long as you hold on to your anger and resentment, you will not be able to experience the blessing and thereby become grateful for it.

Our Gurus did teach people how to make THIS life better. That's what Gurmat is all about. Sewa, Simran, Bani, Bana. These are the tools we use to make our life better.

Cancer creates great pain and burning within the body. It burns away karmas and cleanses. The blessing of cancer lies in the fact that much karma is paid in a relatively short time.

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If you don't mind me saying, Babaji to you....I can see how you can nail this on the head straight away. There is alot of anger, anger of not being well physically, I have suffering for over 32 years, I have been suffering with bouts of diarrhoea, sometimes 10-12 times a day, The doctors had me

sanjlon gravatar imagesanjlon ( 2017-03-31 15:50:21 -0500 )edit

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