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2015-02-04 08:37:44 -0500 answered a question Prayer for Sikh Man

You are asking for help for an Earthly bride to come your way. This is what you wish to happen yes?

Well this is normal for a man who is ready to marry but is not suppose to be a direct want by reciting a Shabbad for x number of days in order for your search of a suitable wife to come along. must be sincere with there thought and not use God's name in vain. By all means recite Gurbani with a true and sincere heart. Do Naam Simran and seva. Do these things because you want the Love Of God to come your way, because you want your soul to experience the ONE.

Your future wife will automatically come to you somehow with guidance from waheguru.

2015-02-04 08:10:18 -0500 answered a question Keski and Kesh


It is difficuilt sometimes with parents to make them realise something when they feel they already know enough about!

It is not impossible though and with time things do change. However when young children are in question and want to follow a spiritual path especially Sikhi things can get challenging. More so for parents.

So simply and to the point of trying to convince them go and watch Chaar Sahibzade film. It is so heart touching and emotional and full of TRUTH. Beautifully put together in a animated style you must watch it. You will have to find out some how on where it is being showed or whether you can actually but the DVD now. Avoid piracy and other fake ways though.


2015-02-04 07:50:56 -0500 answered a question Can I Kiss Her


A simple kiss is just a show of human love and affection or even a way of greeting someone. It can also lead to more than just a simple you understand this?

Your Girl....friend is not Amritdhari yet but you ARE you say you plan to marry. You do realise that she also is suppose to become amritdhari before marriage so that both of you are on the same level of Sikh code of conduct.

You are young and maturity is on it's way, so how do you know that you will not marry someone else if your girl...friend will not become your wife?

Look love IS blind when you only think shallow. You got to go deeper to realise true life is not like a movie where you fall head over heels in love with someone and then think there is no other!

You want to ask yourselves where do we want to be 5-10 years from now...? Who do we wish to become?


2015-02-04 06:02:38 -0500 answered a question kesh issues

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

Use a good quality shampoo and conditioner and develop ideal hair care practice. Towel dry hair by placing all of the kesh together in towel and squeeze towel to soak up the water try to get the hair to a damp state then use your hands like a comb and GENTLY get any big tangles out. Also you could try spray that you can get which helps to untangle hair.

When your kesh is clear of any heavy tangles just GENTLY run kanga through a few times to loosen up more. When kesh is ready for oil massage use quality hair oil such as mustard oil mixed with coconut oil and work into scalp and hair right through to full length of kesh. Better if your mother can apply the oil to your kesh regardless of how much they value kesh!

Finally comb your kesh carefully again to get all hair smooth, straight and tangle free. Tie dastaar. You could also massage oil into scalp/kesh say night before washing your hair as this also can help.

My hair also was very thick when I was young but I was a mona! Over the years though due to dry hair and scalp my hair has thinned on top of my head although kesh is longer now. So it is important to keep kesh oiled regularly and combed to keep hair healthy.


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2015-02-01 16:45:51 -0500 answered a question Vegetarian advice

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

To put weight on you must EAT enough food everyday, eventually you will put on weight but more than likely it will be fat. That is a simple answer, however you have said you wish to gain muscle due to being underweight. Do not worry to much about your weight because once muscle starts to grow your weight will automatically start to go up. As for being a vegetarian that's great so am I and have been for around 5 years now.

Lets start by saying the help you wish to receive has more impact from someone who has some experience and knowledge about wanting to increase bodyweight through increased muscle mass. I have been trying for years to get into shape and have had many ups and downs due to work commitments, diet and not training correctly etc. Now I am a family man with family responsibilities as well as work and everything else life throws at you but still after years of trying do not give up my goal to get into shape and experience a more muscular/stronger physique. Now that the Singh form is my appearance the challenges are more so. I use to eat meat/fish/eggs, drink alcohol but gave it all up to become a Singh and eventually Gursikh but at moment it is somewhat difficult. But anyway that is another story. So you want to gain some muscle eh?

Well the first thing you must do is go to the GYM and train. The body will not get stronger and fitter unless you work it...and you must work the body hard train it with weights which get heavier and heavier. Do not forget to do cardiovascular training to keep heart and lungs in good shape. No point in becoming a 15st plus muscular individual with crap cardiovascular conditioning! I enjoy walking/hiking and cycling and whatever cardio machines are in the gym. I am no expert or bodybuilder just trying to reach a goal to experience a more fitter and healthier lifestyle.

Once your training hard and go gym regular say 2-3 times a week and doing whatever cardio to keep fat levels low metabolism medium to high and heart/lungs in good shape next is the food you consume!

You must eat ENOUGH CALORIES everday in order to fuel the tough workouts and to have surplus calories for muscle growth to happen. You must have nutrients flowing around your body all the time to give the muscle which has been fatigued and broken down through heavy training all the carbs/protein/healthy fats in order for muscle recovery to take place!

Simply put you got to EAT a lot but not like a pig! you must plan and prepare your meals in advance so food is always there ready and on time for you. Some thought has to go in to meal prep for us vegetarians because we do not eat ... (more)

2015-01-14 16:48:46 -0500 answered a question Confused about whether I must keep my hair

Is it? Is it truly a GREAT response?

You are clearly missing something here that you have an issue with. A TRUE devoted Sikh who has given there head to the True Guru who has received Amrit lives to the code of conduct. Forgive me but Was it not Shiri Guru Gobind Singh Ji who said it is not the Sikh which is dear to me but the Rehat of the SIKH.

It is true that Sikhi should be in your heart and MIND and having little to no attachment to Maya. Kesh/Hair is a part of the human body Kesh is attached to the human form for a reason. Ok there are certain medical conditions regarding kesh and the female form particularly, but lets not go there because that is a different issue.

The keeping of your hair uncut and in natural state is a true test of your strength and character and your overall acceptance to the way you have been made. There is no confusion here because a Sikh is one who has HAIR. Would a clean shaven sikh look right?

Look, the simple answer is this.. when one is ready to receive Amrit and become Amritdharee and live as a Gursikh, become Khalsa..become Gurmukh then no question arises about having confusion to keep hair uncut.

2015-01-10 14:18:56 -0500 answered a question Is covering head is necessary after taking amrit?

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

As a Singh who ties a Dastaar and realizes it's worth and meaning I would not be comfortable with out it! It has almost become a part of me. I am not amritdhari yet so cannot comment a great deal with my limited knowledge at present.

When you have received amrit is your head NOT suppose to be covered? wearing of chunni is fine Phenji but with a Dastaar your head is covered all the time this is more practical more secure keeps hair clean and safe plus you are carrying the Sikh image. Straight away you are recognized and seen as a Sikh.

Finally Phenji when Wearing Dastaar you have same equality and status as the male Singh, this is very important because our females are no less than a man and in my view are to be treated fairly and with respect.

2015-01-07 08:43:40 -0500 answered a question I'm the worst amritdhaari ever! please help! what should i do?

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh

You are not the worst Amritdhaari ever and neither the best...Yet. A mistake has been made and you realize this. This is good, because it shows that something is not right in the mind.

Kaam is a very powerful thief who will destroy your will power through temptation, desire, feeling of wanting to.. etc etc. Kaam is right at the top of the 5 Thieves who will take you away from GOD. They are EVIL because they will not let you LIVE.

I cannot comment a great deal because my discipline is not 100% I am not amritdhari yet.

When the mind gets a thought that thought will stay in the mind together with all other thoughts. The eyes see what the mind desires, the body wishes to feel the experience, the mind is satisfied and the thought grows. Energy is given to these thoughts of sexual desire and the mind gets carried.....away so much so you become consumed in these thoughts because it is all pleasing to the MIND which is every cell and molecule throughout the whole body! The mind is not in your HEAD only!!

Please do not hate yourself, no one hates you here. The human being requires male and female connection, just not through these ways. Kaam just like Krodh, Lobh, Moh and Hankar must be kept under tight control otherwise they WILL control YOU.

Everyone's comments on here are all to help you, but ultimately you have to start doing what you are not doing. The mind is extremely powerful and very unstable you MUST always keep it under control and this can take time, years in fact. We have been given all the tools by our great Gurus and our eternal GURU stands strong and firm. So must we. Nothing is EASY in life otherwise how will we know what is HARD! We all struggle through life, it is part of the process. We all make mistakes and being amritdhaari does not mean you will never make a mistake. There must be some Amritdhaari out there who have made far more severe mistakes ok point taken you should not have done what you did but you did it regardless of earlier experiences which may have triggered this thought into becoming action. In future any thoughts which enter your mind that you KNOW will ROB you of your will power must.. MUST be cut of straight away otherwise they will linger in the mind and keep on harassing you until you give in to YOUR MIND.

Take care, stay STRONG and NEVER GIVE UP to become a TRUE KHALSA. Waheguru.....Satnaam

2015-01-06 11:52:48 -0500 answered a question should i marry?

Short answer is NO! Long answer is as give no details on problem.