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asked 2015-06-12 12:52:45 -0500

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updated 2015-06-20 15:08:58 -0500

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I'm 29 and can't seem to get married, I get rishteh but nothing comes from it! I've started reciting so purkh but in English, there's a few questions I want to ask regarding reciting so purkh!

1- Can I recite it quietly in English? 2- Can I lie in bed and recite it? 3 -My mind seems to wonder when reciting it? 4- How do I no in doing it right?

Look forward to any responses


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answered 2015-06-12 17:10:59 -0500

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

You will get married one day there are many matrimonial Sikh sites, google them. I know Sikh net have their own. Check this one out

If English you mean romanised translation e.g. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh. Then thats totally fine. Also once you get used to reciting it learn the meaning.

You can recite Gurus Bani anywhere, but If you are reading it from a Gutka Sahib Ji or phone its better to sit crossed legged on your bed. You can do Mool Mantra or Waheguru Jaap while lying down. Also you should have your head covered.

Thats happens to every Sikh, focusing the mind is a very hard thing and will only happen by Guru Ji grace. So just keep reciting it.Search this on YouTube or google you will see many Sikhs are in the same boat.

Listen to it is the one of the best ways to learn Bani.

- So Purakh is a part of Rehraas Sahib so check this part of the video It should start at 5:42

- Search up So Purakh on YouTube as well

After you recited it, do Ardaas saying to Guru Ji I must have made many mistakes during Path please forgive me and bless with me with the ability to recite better. Or you can listen to an Ardaas.

"Walking one step towards the Guru's feet, the True Guru walks millions of steps to welcome you. By repeating the mantra given by the True Guru only once, Guru blesses you with love and devotion and with repetition of the Name again and again. If, with devotion and reverence, one places only one coin in front of the Guru, the Guru blesses him with all treasures. The True Guru is the treasure of all mercy. his glory is infinite. Always, always always, I bow, I bow, I bow, I bow..." - Vaars of Bhai Gur Das Ji

This was taken from this page

Just do Path, Simran, Sewa, Implement what Guru Ji tells you in your life and do Ardaas Guru Ji will give you what ever you desire.

Hope you keeping do So Purakh.

Please forgive me if i said anything wrong or offensive.

Also start learning Japji Sahib. You start by doing the first 5 Paurees and the Shalok.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

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answered 2015-06-13 11:35:14 -0500

Kaur29 gravatar image

Thanks you for taking your time to reply

It's just that when I do it in Gurmukhi some of my pronounciations are incorrect and that's when I feel I'm doing it incorrect and I start feeling guilty within myself!


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Don't feel guilty. Heres an example someone told me: When a baby starts to say his first words, the parents get really happy. But the baby doesn't know what he/she is saying and most likely be off in pronouncing what he/she said. This doesn't mean we stop the baby from saying those words.

gn gravatar imagegn ( 2015-06-13 11:46:04 -0500 )edit

The same applies to us and the Guru. When we first start doing path, Guru Ji gets really happy. Why would he want us to stop ?. Pronunciations come with time. Say if you do pronounce something wrong you ain't doing it purpose, and Guru Ji wont do anything bad to us. Only Guru Ji is perfect.

gn gravatar imagegn ( 2015-06-13 11:49:22 -0500 )edit

The main thing is where doing Path, to get perfect pronunciations only come to a very very few blessed Gursikhs. The is a story where Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji was ready to give the Guru ship to a Sikh who recited Japji Sahib perfectly.

gn gravatar imagegn ( 2015-06-13 11:52:55 -0500 )edit

answered 2015-06-13 12:21:42 -0500

Kaur29 gravatar image

Thanks, I think this has given me piece of mind and I am determined to keep going! Thanks for your help

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