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Karma of breaking marriage

asked 2012-10-28 19:58:01 -0500

pkaur3030 gravatar image

updated 2012-10-28 20:01:02 -0500

I'm a sikh lady and was married to a sikh man for 2 months. Their was no adultry involved, but I ended our marriage because he didn't make an effort to bond with my family and we were fighting all the time, I know he wanted to work things out but I told him we weren't compatible and that I didn't love him anymore. I know he was devastated and deeply hurt. I re-married 4 months later and he still hasn't found anyone. We haven't spoken since I ended things a year ago. Will I have bad karma for all the pain I've caused him and his family and from walking away?

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answered 2012-11-06 04:56:33 -0500

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Our mind bhenji is a very powerful entity. You will constanatly be aware of something wrong that you might be going to do or might have done.

If you feel that you are carrying that load deep under, try to relieve it. If your mind knew that there wasnt a bit of your fault, it would not have bothered you so much.

What was to happen has happened, but things can still be sorted out. A simple note of sorry or apology can do miraculous wonders at both ends to relieve the tension. Asking for apology and forgiving .... what great virtues ...hope I had them..... i'd say try it out.

Hope it helps.

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answered 2012-11-04 17:52:38 -0500

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updated 2012-12-06 13:32:03 -0500

You have learnt from your actions. And move on. Maybe he has not. Or he needs time. What can you do? Somehow the Karma of both your lives is now separate. So let it be. Yes you both have learnt from your time together. But that is it.

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I'm sorry, I didn't understand your answer. Please elaborate. thanks

pkaur3030 gravatar imagepkaur3030 ( 2012-11-06 01:33:20 -0500 )edit

yes I have updated

kanwaljit.singh gravatar imagekanwaljit.singh ( 2012-12-06 17:09:17 -0500 )edit

answered 2012-11-16 04:07:42 -0500

That is the problem with most of Spiritual enlightened people they are not good with Sex and shy away doing it or need to have some more understanding of it.. You still care for him is a sign that he is a Nice Person ..

My dear sister its a very unfortunate to know all that ..

As mentioned in Gurbani about karama

pavan guru pani pita, mata dharat mahut divas rat doeh daei deiya, khailai sagal jagat

Air (Thought or WORD) is the Guru (Teacher), Water (Tolerance and Humility) is the Father and Earth (means of sustenance) is the Mother, Day and Night, are the two Nurses (Pleasure and Pain). The whole world is thus engaged in the Great Play.

changaaeia buraaeia vachai dharam hadoor karmi aapo aapni kai nairhai kai door.

Good and bad deeds performed in life are examined by Lord of Justice. It is our actions, which keep us near or far away from the Lord.

jini nam dhiaiya, geai musakat ghal nanak tai mukh oojlai, kaiti chuti nal.

Nanak says: whosoever medittated on the Name of God, their hard work became fruitful. They are Glorified in the Court of God, and they become instrumental in liberating others too.

Waheguru ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh !!

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Thank you for your I guess their really isn't a yes or no.

pkaur3030 gravatar imagepkaur3030 ( 2012-11-24 21:15:15 -0500 )edit

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