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How do i leave this meditation group? Please help

asked 2018-06-14 21:18:22 -0600

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SSA Everyone, I am Sikh girl and was brought up in a Gursikh family where my parents only believe in Guru Granth Sahib Ji. I was born & brought up in India but after my graduation I came to Canada for higher studies and now its been 7 years in this country. One and a half years back, I got married to a guy in India and within first two weeks, my marriage turned into a very abusive marriage. He was a Sikh guy but he used to beat me every now & then and used to insult me in front of his friends and used to call me by very filthy names. After two months, I left everything and came back to Canada but I was very depressed and in shock as I never thought that this will happen to me. I was not able to sleep at nights and at that time, I found this Meditation group called Sahaja Yoga ( founded by Nirmala Devi) and I started practicing their meditation and other techniques like foot-soaking daily and I started getting into normal sleep routine without any effort. If I would miss a day, I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. But after 3 months, the group members started taking me to other house meetings where they all will gather and do meditation and found out that they consider this lady (Nirmala Devi) as a ultimate supreme power (even above Guru nanak & Jesus) which is very hard for me to accept as I have always believed in Guru Granth Sahib as the ultimate. So, whithin 4 months of meditation, I stopped going to classes and stopped that meditation. after 3 months, I started getting back problems in my life. My family is also suffering from some major problems. Then I did meditate for 3 days and all the problems started to solve. I am not able to understand that why is this happening and I am unable to leave this meditation group? I don't know what to believe now. In the morning I do my Japji sahib path and at night I meditate in front of Nirmala Devi picture. This is very confusing for me. I am also afraid that if I leave her meditation technique, then I will suffer through major problems. Please advise on this.

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Wjkk wjkf khalsa ji i am from canada as well and have problem in medidating as wel ill younplease help me get some tips on medidation please

Baagi Singh gravatar imageBaagi Singh ( 2018-06-21 16:13:58 -0600 )edit

I starting meditating last year in October. Initially, I just used to close my eyes and let go of all the thoughts that used to come to my mind. It was really hard initially to even sit for 5 mins but with regular practice, I became better. If you want you can also play waheguru simran

MannJ gravatar imageMannJ ( 2018-06-27 20:16:15 -0600 )edit

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answered 2018-06-15 00:47:54 -0600

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Sat Sri Akal Bhenji. I’m really sorry to hear about what happened with your marriage. I am relieved that you were able to get away. I think we all think that it cannot happen to us, but in fact could be any of us, so I can understand your situation. I think that it is a good idea to step away from this group, as you are right about Sikhs not believing in people being supreme powers. You can still take some of your learnings from there though. For example it sounds like you learned some techniques like foot-soaking which may help you sleep. You can continue these things that help you to destress. I’m not sure what type of meditation you were doing in front of the picture, but how about trying to replace with meditation of God (Naam Japna) instead. Sit with your eyes closed in a comfortable location and say Wahe-guru out loud. You can even put on some Simran from youtube in the background to help you focus, which varies from slow/relaxing, to more fast and upbeat depending on how you would like to listen. And focus on your voice. I think your mind is tricking you into thinking you need this “Nirmala Devi picture”, but you don’t. The path of God and of Sikhi is enough if you devote yourself fully. Guru Nanak Dev Ji told us that idol worship will not help us. Follow the path of God through good times and bad times alike and do Ardas to Waheguru to help you through this time. I don’t know what your daily life looks like so sorry if you are already doing some of these things, but I wanted to make suggestions. Sitting in sangat, listening to or doing kirtan, etc. can also really help. Try reading kirtan sohila at bedtime as well. If you continue to face depression you can also seek some counselling, especially since you were abused it might help to talk about what happened with someone trained in that area. God will surely help you Bhenji but the doubt in your mind is a barrier. You have to trust this path.

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Thank you for answering my question. I have removes the picture of Nirmala devi from my room and now I just do path, waheguru simran and visit gurudwara

MannJ gravatar imageMannJ ( 2018-06-27 20:25:07 -0600 )edit

Great MannJ! May God bless you with more and more heartfelt devotion and time towards this direction.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-06-29 02:15:27 -0600 )edit

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