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Dear Bikaram,

You’re truly blessed to have the conscious to realize you were moving away from the Guru, be grateful for this opportunity to learn and grow without any serious implications. It’s natural to development attachment to a person you were very once familiar with. Considering your situation, you should first deeply ask yourself “Do I truly wish to get over her?” If you truthfully do wish to overcome your attachment to her, your Ardas to Guru Ji requesting the strength and blessing will surely be fulfilled. Your mind is going to constantly be fickle and try to convey you that you need her around etc. You must restrain it, don’t fall in the trap, keep concentrating on Guru Ji whenever the thought of loneliness arises or if you miss her. Try to keep yourself busy by doing extra circular stuff or spending more time with family, friends or any activity that engages your mind. Eliminate any picture, email, text, clothing etc. that reminds you of her, avoid seclusion in the beginning phases to help keeping the mind active and not idle. Practice Naam Simran and reciting Gurbani daily, vigilantly don’t allow the mind to think about her, as soon as the thought arises, replace it with Guru Ji. You might feel emotional at times or even get anxious but don’t worry keep your will strong, develop strong will power to destroy this attachment, be positive, read about the Guru’s, as you think, so will you become, it will all pass, keep faith and trust in Guru Ji. This is all easier said than done, but this is a gift from Guru Ji to grow your conscious higher, be thankful. You will persevere, don’t give up, don’t lose faith or trust in Guru Ji, even if you lose the battle a few times, win the war in your mind! Read the reply under the topic “Bad Thoughts” also, as it will be beneficial to you as well.

Please forgive me if I’ve said anything disrespectful,

Wishing you the best, Chardi Kala!