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Vaheguru Jee Ka Khalsa! Vaheguru Jee Ki Fateh!

First of all, DO NOT MARRY A 14 YEAR OLD GIRL OR AN 18 YEAR OLD GIRL FOR THAT MATTER. They are both young and I cannot believe I am reading this and their parents actually want them to get married, especially since you don't know what you're doing with your life.

I'm gonna give you some straight up no crap advice - sort yourself out. Your job. Your education. Marriage isn't going to fix anything, you do not have to get married yet, or ever. You've just got divorced, your first wife clearly wasn't happy. What makes you think a second marriage is going to work so easily? Sort yourself out, then you can think about marriage and having a family.

"I'll kill 2 birds 1 stone since Indian women are the most submissive women in the world and I'l lose my virginity" That right there is a big problem. Women are not objects. You should not be getting married because it's the thing to do, nor should you do it just to have sex. I would strongly recommend rethinking the way you think about women and sex, in Sikhi lust is harmful and women are completely equal to men. Get this Indian wife stereotype out your head.

You really need to talk to your parents about this. They are so so wrong in their thinking.

How to sort your job and education problems.The only thing I can really say is to do Ardas. Why don't you have some time off and go to the gurdwara and do regular seva and simran. Hopefully you'll find some peace and inspiration. Figure yourself out. Who said you can't take Amrit because you have autism? Immerse yourself in Sikhi. Everything will get better: http://www.sikhnet.com/filmfestival/2011/wake-walk-win/

Vahegurooo <3