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I’m sorry about your situation. I don’t know if any of this advice will help, but here’s some ideas. Firstly, he needs to recognize his problem. It sounds like he does because he wants to quit, but perhaps he might not realize the full extent of his problem and the impact its having on your relationship and it sounds like your wellbeing as well. It sounds like he started gambling a year ago and has stopped wearing his kirpan, etc. What changed in this year for him? What is driving this change? Try to help him figure that out for himself. Is he depressed? Is he stressed out? Ultimately I mean it’s his problem and he really needs to have the motivation to be able to make this change to work on his problem, but you can try to help by having those conversations with him. Gambling can go really really bad- like he could start stealing if he runs out of money to gamble with, or when you get married he could use up all of your money/savings, and you could lose your house, etc. If he wants to get over this he needs to have some support, but also target where this is coming from. If he’s depressed for example he needs to learn other ways of coping. He might benefit from counseling. He can surround himself with sangat that uplifts him, and supports him in staying away from this. He can give up using his credit cards and have someone help with finances.

I think you seriously need to think about this before you get married!! Remember, you have the right to choose to delay your wedding or to walk away at all times. You don’t want to be trapped and unhappy. You need to focus on what you need and the life ahead of you.