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Thank you, this is all surreal, im so confused at the moment, me and my wife get back on track and then she is taken from me.

I do not know what lessons to learn, im trying but it is very difficult, i just want my wife to be at peace.

My partner passed away and i feel broken, i believe in the Laava we did at the Anand Karaj, but what now ? We were two souls as one but now she is no longer here, is her soul still connected to mine ?

Any information would be greatly appreciated.

Waheguru

Some of you may have read my previous post about loosing faith and needed guidance, my wife and I sorted out our differences and were in a happy place in a long time.

Waheguru then takes her away from me, im just so confused, I feel so guilty and broken.

I want to be strong and brave but feel so hapless, I keep thinking did I cause all this.

I also fear where my wife is , I just hope all the paath me and my wife did has merged her with Waheguru.

I just do not know what to do

I wrote the following about her....

I’m heartbroken and I can’t stop crying, the only thing that’s getting me by is that I know you are at peace and have merged with Waheguru Ji.

Everyday when I do my paath and I sing for Waheguru Ji, I know I’m singing for my beautiful Rajwinder.

When I think of my beautiful Rajwinder, I know I’m thinking of the radiance of Waheguru Ji.

I miss you so much and I love you with all my heart, you are my soul mate Rajwinder.

All my love forever your roly poly Sukhi, and yes I was Pinky and you was always the Brain.

Everything you wanted to know is here

http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/BhaiNandLalRahitnama?ga=2.200141870.1482033830.1543578062-1957457096.1539547924

Questions by Bhai Nand Lal Ji and Answers by Guru Gobind Singh Ji himself

Just wondering if you are married and either spouse does paath, does it help the other?

As it's supposed to be be two souls becoming one right ? I did way more paath than my wife , I just hope she is now merged with waheguru.

Any information on this would be really appreciated.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ke Fateh

Should we be making plans in Sikhism? I'm not going into details but should we be planning in general? Plans make expectations, when those expectations are not met or fulfilled, we then fire off negative emotions.

So should we plan or just go with the flow ?

I just wanted to thank everybody for their replies, and me and my wife actually sorted things out, tragically however, she was in an accident last week and passed away.

My last memory of her is an amazing one, which might not have been without the Sangat.

I am still heart broken and upset losing her after we have tried to sort out all our issues.

The family thing couldn't be resolved but I didn't expect it too either.

I just regret having regrets and not sorting if out sooner, life is so strange at times.

I'm just crying all the time when I do paath atm but it's on the remembrance of my wife I think rather than how some cry over the words of the Guru.

Just wanted to say thank you and be a bit selfish and get this off my chest.

Thank you again, WAHIGURU JI KA KHALSA WAHIGURU JI KI FATEH

Does anybody know where I can download the English version of this? And has anybody read it ? Thoughts on it ?

Waheguru

Hope this helps ....

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Im turning 40 early next year, I have been trying to follow the sikhi religion for twenty years now. I just feel lost, and I don't know what to do, I was very happy until around two years ago, when I got married, my wife brought a lot of troubles with her and I still stood by her.

Now there is a rift between my family and hers, all I want is a simple life, I believe in sikhi, and the ritual we did when getting married.

But how much can a man take before you need to let go, I just feel miserable and I don't understand why waheguru is making me go through this.

I'm now at the point of drinking far too much and causing trouble to my parents.

I don't want to do this , I just want a happy home with a wife and kids , I'm not asking for much , I just don't understand anymore

If anyone has some advice, please share.

Thank you, waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru

Some more details, so like I said I got married two years ago, she moved from a different city to mine.

This is where all the problems started , when I'd go work she would argue with my parents, we found out she was taking un- prescribed drugs mostly anti depressants. Also found out she was drinking and is a alcoholic.

She also seems mentally ill (she still hasn't told me what) but from my experience it sounds a lot like bi-polar). She just out of the blue starts having fits and such which I stood by her.

It got to the point two months in we moved out thought maybe the stress of being with my parents is stirring her up.

Once we moved out more freedom, more instances of drinking, the she stole from boots for no reason, and then cought her applying for one of those escort sites.

After all this she went back to her own house , she would come back to vist every month sometimes pleasant other times she would have me arrested and all sorts.

It's totally messed up my head, there is plenty more, but I do know what to do , if I talk about divorce she talks about sucide. I just feel trapped and I don't know why out of three brothers I'm the only one who got married to a sikh girl, I do paath as much as I can and try and be a decent person.

I just don't understand why I have to go through this and I still do at least japji sahib everyday.

Like I said I'm lost, also as you can tell there will be no reconciliation with my family and hers, from not telling us the truth about her from the start.