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I once posted a question earlier but I had it deleted. But I kind of still am going through a emotional outrage about it so I will post it again with more details i guess. What is really my problem, I am not able to understand. help me out guys my mind is getting :| is this guy messing with me

Basically six months ago, There was a guy( he is muslim) . I had no feelings for him what so ever. But then he basically started flirting with me a lot. Mostly through texting. And because as a female (who naturally likes male attention) I flirted back. and I saw nothing much of him, but as we spoke, the persona he presented, I was in awe. because he is smart, really smart, and very unique, and beautiful, talks sweetly, presents himself in a good manner(like perfect).
but also in confusion, like those good morning beautiful texts, goodnight beautiful texts like that contact, wayyy too much contact, acting as if we have known each other for a long time. he would say things like you are the most special girl I have ever met so far, you are so beautiful, your hair is so pretty. the contact remained like that for 1 month (like literally day and night) if i didn't reply to a text in 1 hour he would be like are you okay!! :\

and then for 3 weeks he totally disappeared. (that kind of messed with my head)

• and then we started talking again, he told oh its because he was just busy.
• the flirting continued..

I grew an attachment towards him, if he didn't reply to text I would be like what happened and blah blah. He literally told me to grow up! :| but when I didn't reply he was like atleast check your messages. I felt like his weird little possession (like his pretty little doll) but I also felt bad for even questioning against him. I literally felt horrible for questioning him, he had that some sort of weird control. :|

^^ that was through texting.

He even said weird things about him like oh "I am a sociopath", "I am so messed up"

one time he invited me to go out drinking. I said no because its not really a sikh way of life. and my parents are quite strict. So I said no, and he said omg haha your a woman (I am a uni student, but don't drink or do drugs), you can't go because your not allowed. I said well no I can't, and then he said fine I respect that.

And we would hang out sometimes, and there was his other friend and everytime I would hang out with them (study sessions), I had this strange gut feeling, that said "girl, just run away" I ignored it. every time I would actually look at him, I saw a cold monster, who does not really care about me at all. I would get this horrifying feeling all over. (because I care, and I felt he didn't and the sweet words were empty, it felt like that)

• anyways after doing some research, I found out evidence against his friend (not him but his friend). I found out that his friend has slept with 10 women in just the town I live in. Even then I was like OH thats just his friend not him. so again I continued to talk. he would make remarks, like "grow up" a lot to me, if I questioned him. he would say don't act like my mom.

then literally after getting confused, and mind effed , I said I don't want to be friends with you, after that drama.

his last line "ok fine, but don't call yourself a woman"

• basically I see the logic of this whole situation. But My heart is so attached to him, I look at the clock (in my mind I will say, did he genuinely care about me? yes, no?) and when the big hand strikes 12. It gives me a decision. :| if yes = happy, if no= sad ^ it is actually so pathetic.

but the thing is, I took a decision about him mostly through my gut feeling, I have not found evidence against him. so in my heart I still think he cares. when i see things from my perspective I am fine, but then I try to see from his perspective, and it messes me over. from reading this situation, do you guys think he genuinely cares for me? or is he an emotional manipulator? or just a young guy who is confused as hell. and believe me I have tried forgetting. but his thoughts are always there. and the horrible thing is that I have to see him almost every single day.

I once posted a question earlier but I had it deleted. But I kind of still am going through a emotional outrage about it so I will post it again with more details i guess. What is really my problem, I am not able to understand. help me out guys my mind is getting :| is this guy messing with me

Basically six months ago, There was a guy( he is muslim) . I had no feelings for him what so ever. But then he basically started flirting with me a lot. Mostly through texting. And because as a female (who naturally likes male attention) I flirted back. and I saw nothing much of him, but as we spoke, the persona he presented, I was in awe. because he is smart, really smart, and very unique, and beautiful, talks sweetly, presents himself in a good manner(like perfect).
but also in confusion, like those good morning beautiful texts, goodnight beautiful texts like that contact, wayyy too much contact, acting as if we have known each other for a long time. he would say things like you are the most special girl I have ever met so far, you are so beautiful, your hair is so pretty. the contact remained like that for 1 month (like literally day and night) if i didn't reply to a text in 1 hour he would be like are you okay!! :\

and then for 3 weeks he totally disappeared. (that kind of messed with my head)

• and then we started talking again, he told oh its because he was just busy.
• the flirting continued..

I grew an attachment towards him, if he didn't reply to text I would be like what happened and blah blah. He literally told me to grow up! :| but when I didn't reply he was like atleast check your messages. I felt like his weird little possession (like his pretty little doll) but I also felt bad for even questioning against him. I literally felt horrible for questioning him, he had that some sort of weird control. :|

^^ that was through texting.

He even said weird things about him like oh "I am a sociopath", "I am so messed up"

one time he invited me to go out drinking. I said no because its not really a sikh way of life. and my parents are quite strict. So I said no, and he said omg haha your a woman (I am a uni student, but don't drink or do drugs), you can't go because your not allowed. I said well no I can't, and then he said fine I respect that.

And we would hang out sometimes, and there was his other friend and everytime I would hang out with them (study sessions), I had this strange gut feeling, that said "girl, just run away" I ignored it. every time I would actually look at him, I saw a cold monster, who does not really care about me at all. I would get this horrifying feeling all over. (because I care, and I felt he didn't and the sweet words were empty, it felt like that)

• anyways after doing some research, I found out evidence against his friend (not him but his friend). I found out that his friend has slept with 10 women in just the town I live in. Even then I was like OH thats just his friend not him. so again I continued to talk. he would make remarks, like "grow up" a lot to me, if I questioned him. he would say don't act like my mom.

then literally after getting confused, and mind effed , I said I don't want to be friends with you, after that drama.

his last line "ok fine, but don't call yourself a woman"

• basically I see the logic of this whole situation. But My heart is so attached to him, I look at the clock (in my mind I will say, did he genuinely care about me? yes, no?) and when the big hand strikes 12. It gives me a decision. :| if yes = happy, if no= sad ^ it is actually so pathetic.

but the thing is, I took a decision about him mostly through my gut feeling, I have not found evidence against him. so in my heart I still think he cares. when i see things from my perspective I am fine, but then I try to see from his perspective, and it messes me over. from reading this situation, do you guys think he genuinely cares for me? or is he an emotional manipulator? or just a young guy who is confused as hell. and believe me I have tried forgetting. but his thoughts are always there. and the horrible thing is that I have to see him almost every single day.

I once posted a question earlier but I had it deleted. But I kind of still am going through a emotional outrage about it so I will post it again with more details i guess. What is really my problem, I am not able to understand. help me out guys my mind is getting :| is this guy messing with me

Basically six months ago, There was a guy( he is muslim) . I had no feelings for him what so ever. But then he basically started flirting with me a lot. Mostly through texting. And because as a female (who naturally likes male attention) I flirted back. and I saw nothing much of him, but as we spoke, the persona he presented, I was in awe. because he is smart, really smart, and very unique, and beautiful, talks sweetly, presents himself in a good manner(like perfect).
but also in confusion, like those good morning beautiful texts, goodnight beautiful texts like that contact, wayyy too much contact, acting as if we have known each other for a long time. he would say things like you are the most special girl I have ever met so far, you are so beautiful, your hair is so pretty. the contact remained like that for 1 month (like literally day and night) if i didn't reply to a text in 1 hour he would be like are you okay!! :\

and then for 3 weeks he totally disappeared. (that kind of messed with my head)

• and then we started talking again, he told oh its because he was just busy.
• the flirting continued..

I grew an attachment towards him, if he didn't reply to text I would be like what happened and blah blah. He literally told me to grow up! :| but when I didn't reply he was like atleast check your messages. I felt like his weird little possession (like his pretty little doll) but I also felt bad for even questioning against him. I literally felt horrible for questioning him, he had that some sort of weird control. :|

^^ that was through texting.

He even said weird things about him like oh "I am a sociopath", "I am so messed up"

one time he invited me to go out drinking. I said no because its not really a sikh way of life. and my parents are quite strict. So I said no, and he said omg haha your a woman (I am a uni student, but don't drink or do drugs), you can't go because your not allowed. I said well no I can't, and then he said fine I respect that.

And we would hang out sometimes, and there was his other friend and everytime I would hang out with them (study sessions), I had this strange gut feeling, that said "girl, just run away" I ignored it. every time I would actually look at him, I saw a cold monster, who does not really care about me at all. I would get this horrifying feeling all over. (because I care, and I felt he didn't and the sweet words were empty, it felt like that)

• anyways after doing some research, I found out evidence against his friend (not him but his friend). I found out that his friend has slept with 10 women in just the town I live in. Even then I was like OH thats just his friend not him. so again I continued to talk. he would make remarks, like "grow up" a lot to me, if I questioned him. he would say don't act like my mom.

then literally after getting confused, and mind effed , I said I don't want to be friends with you, after that drama.

his last line "ok fine, but don't call yourself a woman"

• basically I see the logic of this whole situation. But My heart is so attached to him, I look at the clock (in my mind I will say, did he genuinely care about me? yes, no?) and when the big hand strikes 12. It gives me a decision. :| if yes = happy, if no= sad ^ it is actually so pathetic.

but the thing is, I took a decision about him mostly through my gut feeling, I have not found evidence against him. so in my heart I still think he cares. when i see things from my perspective I am fine, but then I try to see from his perspective, and it messes me over. from reading this situation, do you guys think he genuinely cares for me? or is he an emotional manipulator? or just a young guy who is confused as hell. and believe me I have tried forgetting. but his thoughts are always there. and the horrible thing is that I have to see him almost every single day.

he made me believe he cared so much about me, that my heart keeps going back to that. but i have that strange gut feeling about him. :| how to i maintain strength when you have to be in close proximity with that person on a regular basis (classroom setting).

I once posted a question earlier but I had it deleted. But I kind of still am going through a emotional outrage about it so I will post it again with more details i guess. What is really my problem, I am not able to understand. help me out guys my mind is getting :| is this guy messing with me

Basically six months ago, There was a guy( he is muslim) . I had no feelings for him what so ever. But then he basically started flirting with me a lot. Mostly through texting. And because as a female (who naturally likes male attention) I flirted back. and I saw nothing much of him, but as we spoke, the persona he presented, I was in awe. because he is smart, really smart, and very unique, and beautiful, talks sweetly, presents himself in a good manner(like perfect).
but also in confusion, like those good morning beautiful texts, goodnight beautiful texts like that contact, wayyy too much contact, acting as if we have known each other for a long time. he would say things like you are the most special girl I have ever met so far, you are so beautiful, your hair is so pretty. the contact remained like that for 1 month (like literally day and night) if i didn't reply to a text in 1 hour he would be like are you okay!! :\

and then for 3 weeks he totally disappeared. (that kind of messed with my head)

• and then we started talking again, he told oh its because he was just busy.
• the flirting continued..

I grew an attachment towards him, if he didn't reply to text I would be like what happened and blah blah. He literally told me to grow up! :| but when I didn't reply he was like atleast check your messages. I felt like his weird little possession (like his pretty little doll) but I also felt bad for even questioning against him. I literally felt horrible for questioning him, he had that some sort of weird control. :|

^^ that was through texting.

He even said weird things about him like oh "I am a sociopath", "I am so messed up"

one time he invited me to go out drinking. I said no because its not really a sikh way of life. and my parents are quite strict. So I said no, and he said omg haha your a woman (I am a uni student, but don't drink or do drugs), you can't go because your not allowed. I said well no I can't, and then he said fine I respect that.

And we would hang out sometimes, and there was his other friend and everytime I would hang out with them (study sessions), I had this strange gut feeling, that said "girl, just run away" I ignored it. every time I would actually look at him, I saw a cold monster, who does not really care about me at all. I would get this horrifying feeling all over. (because I care, and I felt he didn't and the sweet words were empty, it felt like that)

• anyways after doing some research, I found out evidence against his friend (not him but his friend). I found out that his friend has slept with 10 women in just the town I live in. Even then I was like OH thats just his friend not him. so again I continued to talk. he would make remarks, like "grow up" a lot to me, if I questioned him. he would say don't act like my mom.

then literally after getting confused, and mind effed , I said I don't want to be friends with you, after that drama.

his last line "ok fine, but don't call yourself a woman"

• basically I see the logic of this whole situation. But My heart is so attached to him, I look at the clock (in my mind I will say, did he genuinely care about me? yes, no?) and when the big hand strikes 12. It gives me a decision. :| if yes = happy, if no= sad ^ it is actually so pathetic.

but the thing is, I took a decision about him mostly through my gut feeling, I have not found evidence against him. so in my heart I still think he cares. when i see things from my perspective I am fine, but then I try to see from his perspective, and it messes me over. from reading this situation, do you guys think he genuinely cares for me? or is he an emotional manipulator? or just a young guy who is confused as hell. and believe me I have tried forgetting. but his thoughts are always there. and the horrible thing is that I have to see him almost every single day.

he made me believe he cared so much about me, that my heart keeps going back to that. but i have that strange gut feeling about him. :| how to i maintain strength when you have to be in close proximity with that person on a regular basis (classroom setting).

I once posted a question earlier but I had it deleted. But I kind of still am going through a emotional outrage about it so I will post it again with more details i guess. What is really my problem, I am not able to understand. help me out guys my mind is getting :| is this guy messing with me

Basically six months ago, There was a guy( he is muslim) . I had no feelings for him what so ever. But then he basically started flirting with me a lot. Mostly through texting. And because as a female (who naturally likes male attention) I flirted back. and I saw nothing much of him, but as we spoke, the persona he presented, I was in awe. because he is smart, really smart, and very unique, and beautiful, talks sweetly, presents himself in a good manner(like perfect).
but also in confusion, like those good morning beautiful texts, goodnight beautiful texts like that contact, wayyy too much contact, acting as if we have known each other for a long time. he would say things like you are the most special girl I have ever met so far, you are so beautiful, your hair is so pretty. the contact remained like that for 1 month (like literally day and night) if i didn't reply to a text in 1 hour he would be like are you okay!! :\

and then for 3 weeks he totally disappeared. (that kind of messed with my head)

• and then we started talking again, he told oh its because he was just busy.
• the flirting continued..

I grew an attachment towards him, if he didn't reply to text I would be like what happened and blah blah. He literally told me to grow up! :| but when I didn't reply he was like atleast check your messages. I felt like his weird little possession (like his pretty little doll) but I also felt bad for even questioning against him. I literally felt horrible for questioning him, he had that some sort of weird control. :|

^^ that was through texting.

He even said weird things about him like oh "I am a sociopath", "I am so messed up"

one time he invited me to go out drinking. I said no because its not really a sikh way of life. and my parents are quite strict. So I said no, and he said omg haha your a woman (I am a uni student, but don't drink or do drugs), you can't go because your not allowed. I said well no I can't, and then he said fine I respect that.

And we would hang out sometimes, and there was his other friend and everytime I would hang out with them (study sessions), I had this strange gut feeling, that said "girl, just run away" I ignored it. every time I would actually look at him, I saw a cold monster, who does not really care about me at all. I would get this horrifying feeling all over. (because I care, and I felt he didn't and the sweet words were empty, it felt like that)

• anyways after doing some research, I found out evidence against his friend (not him but his friend). I found out that his friend has slept with 10 women in just the town I live in. Even then I was like OH thats just his friend not him. so again I continued to talk. he would make remarks, like "grow up" a lot to me, if I questioned him. he would say don't act like my mom.

then literally after getting confused, and mind effed , I said I don't want to be friends with you, after that drama.

his last line "ok fine, but don't call yourself a woman"

• basically I see the logic of this whole situation. But My heart is so attached to him, I look at the clock (in my mind I will say, did he genuinely care about me? yes, no?) and when the big hand strikes 12. It gives me a decision. :| if yes = happy, if no= sad ^ it is actually so pathetic.

but the thing is, I took a decision about him mostly through my gut feeling, I have not found evidence against him. so in my heart I still think he cares. when i see things from my perspective I am fine, but then I try to see from his perspective, and it messes me over. from reading this situation, do you guys think he genuinely cares for me? or is he an emotional manipulator? or just a young guy who is confused as hell. and believe me I have tried forgetting. but his thoughts are always there. and the horrible thing is that I have to see him almost every single day.

he made me believe he cared so much about me, that my heart keeps going back to that. but i have that strange gut feeling about him. :| how to i maintain strength when you have to be in close proximity with that person on a regular basis (classroom setting).