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So I saved myself for my husband during my first marriage and waited to have sex until after Laavan as I felt that was the right thing to do. But my husband left me after marriage without closure. All scriptures around the world refrain Couples from having pre-marital sex for successful marriage. I feel like I followed that rules and still ended up getting divorced. I lost my virginity to my ex husband and he was the first love of ny life in true sense. What is the ground rule for a divorced woman in terms of engaging in sex before marriage second time around. Because now I feel like my ex husband married me for sex, used me and left me although I thought he waited for me till marriage. Now, I feel like I am doing the same thing second time, making the guy wait till marriage as ai think it’s right in God’s eyes and not a sin, but what if he’s lusting me too and ai end up in same situation? What do I do? Like this guy says he really loves me, but what if he marries me and wait tikk marriage like first husband and do same thing? Is it better for me to do it before marriage so if he still sticks around, that means our relationship is more than just physical intimacy. I mean we bond other ways too but this is something really intimate.all religions say wait but I feel like that’s applicable for girls while are still virgin. And i am not anymore. Does Sikhi or God have a verse or rule for divorced women whose husbands abandoned them?