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WJKK WJKF Sangat Ji. I love my parents for the most part and I don't mind doing things for them. The issue is they have an issue with a Singh that I've chosen to be my life partner. He and I are very close and his parents are accepting of me but my parents are not accepting of him because he is of lower caste. I don't believe in the caste system (all of us are Amritdhari) but my parents do. They say that I have to the Singh or I have to leave my parents. My dad already gave me a date to move out by. I have tried convincing him and my mother in many ways. I don't want to leave my parents but I will not be leaving that Singh either because he and I are very close and know practically everything about each other. I have been wanting to move away from my family because they were the reason I got depressed and became suicidal. I am willing to move out but the Singh says not to. However, my parents aren't willing to compromise. Gurbani says to give parents utmost respect but what do I do if they are wrong? If I move out, will it count as Paap on me against my parents (even though the issue isn't about taking care of them) or is it acceptable because I am choosing to follow along with Maharaj's rules. Again, I love my parents and am willing to help them whenever they need me but they believe in the caste system and aren't willing to look past old indian traditions. What should I do? In this case, is it acceptable to leave my parents? (They say that we should assume each other dead the day I move out)

WJKK WJKF Sangat Ji. I love my parents for the most part and I don't mind doing things for them. The issue is they have an issue with a Singh that I've chosen to be my life partner. He and I are very close and his parents are accepting of me but my parents are not accepting of him because he is of lower caste. I don't believe in the caste system (all of us are Amritdhari) but my parents do. They say that I have to the Singh or I have to leave my parents. My dad already gave me a date to move out by. I have tried convincing him and my mother in many ways. I don't want to leave my parents but I will not be leaving that Singh either because he and I are very close and know practically everything about each other. I have been wanting to move away from my family because they were the reason I got depressed and became suicidal. I am willing to move out but the Singh says not to. However, my parents aren't willing to compromise. Gurbani says to give parents utmost respect but what do I do if they are wrong? If I move out, will it count as Paap on me against my parents (even though the issue isn't about taking care of them) or is it acceptable because I am choosing to follow along with Maharaj's rules. Again, I love my parents and am willing to help them whenever they need me but they believe in the caste system and aren't willing to look past old indian traditions. What should I do? In this case, is it acceptable to leave my parents? (They say that we should assume each other dead the day I move out)