My wife is telling lies and lies

asked 2015-07-18 04:52:01 -0500

Harjeet Singh
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I have posted earlier also as my wife has cheated on me, as she was having affairs and so on. She has not been disclosing things to me. She has been telling lies on lies. to keep other lie she lies again and again. As a good devotee of Waheguru..i believe in Waheguru and what he is doing, but thing is not that. I am not saying I am Harshchander's son or always speak truth, but she has been lying to me. I recently came to know she has been hiding money from me and had spend somewhere and she and her friend who is also amritdhari has been hiding from me about that. Whenever she cames to meet her, they donot talk much, but they talk in eyes and may be her friend is also hiding something from me. I do not know what to do. As she has lied me many times, it has been diffficult to believe her in anyway that she is telling truth, though she has been doing lot of paths/gurbani, etc., but still why she is cheating..why waheguru why. Really, i am not saying I am good person in this work..i also have KAMIYAN, but i consider myself always as like guru nanak has aid "hum nahi change bura nahi koie", but why this is happening to me.

I also wanted to asking one more thing what happens if person says lie by putting hands on guru grant sahib or gutkas or even lies in normal life...pz help

answered 2015-07-20 11:11:16 -0500

Cloud
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By your actions you define yourself. The actions you make can only affect you.

As that you think that your wife is cheating on you. As you can not know god, you can not know another human being. Even if she is your wife. Because she has a history before the 2 of you got married. Only she knows why she is doing it.

In my limited experiance in marriage. When she is settled with who ever she cheats, she will likely divorce you. But each marriage is diffrent. So my experiance becomes useless in your case.

One question comes to mind and I think I speak to most people reading your question.

Why haven't you confronted her and filed for a divorce?

I don't know what happens according to your second question if people lie to themselves and to the guru and the sangat. The only thing I can think of is that you are not true to who you are. And for most people that doesn't matter at all as long as they fill thier physical and mental needs. It doesn't matter till you get a diagnosis like cancer, or your at the end of the line of life and for the next life.

My only suggestion is that you can trust in god for the future.

And I know what you are thinking.

Why should I trust in god when he gave me a wife that doesn't solve problems in my life but add problems and cheats on me?

Here is a couple of videos that answer that question.

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