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It is said to fight against injustice but it is also said not to argue with foolish people ..What to do ?

asked 2018-01-03 09:33:11 -0600

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updated 2018-01-04 17:18:04 -0600

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It is said to fight against injustice but it is also said not to argue with foolish people what to do ..?

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answered 2018-01-04 02:20:01 -0600

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Unfortunately you can’t him realize his mistakes. That is his own journey. But what you can do is focus on what you can learn out of this. What has this taught you about yourself. I think that I hear a few things- that you used to argue a lot, for example, that might hint to work more on communication and conflict resolution. It takes two people to fight. That way it gives you life skills to be able to deal with similar situations in a more healthy way in the future. In this situation, I also hear that he ignored you, made you feel like he didn’t care, and you felt like that was your fault. That was his behavior and wasn’t right of him, that wasn’t your mistake. I understand it hurts to lose your best friend. Being ignored and rejected hurts beyond measure, and on top of that he didn’t own up to his mistakes. he wasn’t being respectful of your love, your time, and of you as a person. I think that if he realizes on his own and changes himself, he will come back and apologize, but if he doesn’t you need to accept that that relationship wasn’t good for you. You can’t change him, and what he was doing wasn’t healthy for you. Until he is able to recognize and correct that, that relationship will keep having the same dynamic. Youll keep having the same arguments because he will keep ignoring. I think one of the good things you did was try to talk to him about the impact of his behavior- his ignoring, was having on you. Beyond that, since he didn’t change, I think you really need to just move forward with your life and try to heal from this. I think sometimes the best way to “fight” the injustice you feel against yourself that he never apologized and you tried to mend things but it didn’t work, is to just heal and live a good life. You don't need to argue it or fight it. God is just and gives us the chance to mend things when He feels the time is right.

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Thank you so much your motivation. Means a lot to me and yes I will move on and wish that babaji shows him the right path

Ann gravatar imageAnn ( 2018-01-04 02:30:31 -0600 )edit

No problem, yes that is a good wish for him :)

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-01-04 12:58:45 -0600 )edit
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answered 2018-01-03 10:54:32 -0600

Guruka Singh gravatar image

updated 2018-01-03 16:00:52 -0600

These things are not mutually exclusive. They are both true. Arguing is not an effective way to fight injustice. Why do it? It's not important who is "right" and who is "wrong." Fight injustice with seva. Standing up for others, being fully present with people, listening to them, honoring them, feeding and serving, these are among the many effective ways to fight injustice.

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Ty so much but actually can pls help me ...There was a person whom I respected a lot and was very loyal towards him because initially he seemed to be the perfect guy to me ..Who respects babaji a lot and I liked this thing a lot about him ..But as time passed by I realized that he didn't care for me

Ann gravatar imageAnn ( 2018-01-03 11:04:15 -0600 )edit

The way I did and so we had many fights because I seeked for his attention but he ignored me many times ..I still managed to rectify my mistake and apologised to him ..At certain times I felt very bad because I was letting myself down repeatedly . Few days back I just rudely talked to him because he

Ann gravatar imageAnn ( 2018-01-03 11:07:19 -0600 )edit

Was doing that since so long and now he says that he won't come to me to apologize because he does not want to reduce his self respect ..But I still feel bad that I lost my best friend ..And cannot do anything to make him realize his mistake ..So what should I do to make him realize his mistakes..

Ann gravatar imageAnn ( 2018-01-03 11:09:33 -0600 )edit

It would really help me if you guide me

Ann gravatar imageAnn ( 2018-01-03 11:09:57 -0600 )edit

It's not about you. Give up your attachment to this guy along with your expectations regarding him. Let him evolve in his relationship to Guru Ji... and you work on yourself as well. If Guru Ji means for you to be together, nothing will keep you apart.

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2018-01-04 11:01:53 -0600 )edit

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