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Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji i Fateh!

First of all I want to say how beautiful that you are wearing your dastar! You know that you are Guru Ji's daughter and that you belong to him. I respect your courage and your maturity. At 15, the pressures of peers and media are really powerful. Everyone wants you to be just like them. You are a leader and your commitment inspires me. Waheguru!

Feelings are feelings -- actions are actions. Feelings are inside you. Words and actions affect others. Your feelings are not against Sikhi or against anything for that matter. They are just your feelings. They are not wrong. You'll get teased anyway, if not for this then for something else. That's what happens.

Over 90% of communication is non-verbal. We communicate with each other in subtle ways that are even more powerful than words. If you have feelings for this boy, the odds are that he feels it too. So first, let go of feeling guilty about your thoughts and feelings. You have nothing to be guilty about. You are Maharaj Ji's daughter and he will guide everything if you simply let him.

It's ok to like someone. Just follow this cardinal rule: Never compromise your values for benefits.

You be you -- with courage, joy and grace.