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I remember being lonely when I was younger and it seeming to be hopeless to find the kind of partner I was wanting. I had just finished 10 years of boarding school in India and came back to the USA with very few friends in my area. All my friends from school I grew up with, and were more like sisters/brothers so not many options for a life partner. The thought of where this mysterious someone would come from seemed hopeless. I searched and in the process left many of my values behind and compromised my identity as a Sikh.

After going through this experience I felt the emptiness of this and realized this wasn't the way. I had also felt like I had given up. That same year I decided to go to a Sikh/Spiritual/Yoga Camp and to my surprise met my wife. Patience is a virtue!

You never know where/when you are going to meet that person. But you will never be happy if you are always looking outside of you. Connect with your soul and the Guru inside you and develop that relationship and rest all will unfold with ease. Be the lighthouse yourself and attract those around you. Inspire others and you will be lifted up. The more you serve and help others the more blessings will come to you.

Set aside time every morning to connect with your soul. This is important. Learn about meditation and practice meditation ( http://www.sikhnet.com/news/what-is-meditation )

Here is an excerpt from a letter to me from SSS Harbhajan Singh Khalsa Yogiji when I was going through major challenges with my identity. I hope it gives you some encouragement.

November 18, 1995

My dear son in divine

Sat Nam. I am very grateful to you for keeping up and going through the hell of life.

Life is a situation of test, trial and triumph. You will be tested in your life and you must be strong. There is no easy way, and no easy answer. You must face all of your doubts and excel in spite of them; this is the test of life. A test would not be a test if it did not take all of your grit to overcome it. Every man who has achieved greatness in his life has gone through the most difficult time, full of doubt and pain. However, one thing that you must remember is that these situations build your character and make you strong. There is nothing for you to do but to overcome yourself. I cannot dispel your doubts, only you can do this through your spiritual practice. Those you run away from doubt and fear without challenging it can never live in peace or have happiness. This is your test, my son. See it for what it is and get on with your life.

My deepest prayers and blessings are with you. May Guru Ram Das bless you and guide you.

In the name of the cosumes which prevail through everyBODY and the Holy Nam which holds the world.

Humbly Yours Yogi Bhajan

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I remember being lonely when I was younger and it seeming to be hopeless to find the kind of partner I was wanting. I had just finished 10 years of boarding school in India and came back to the USA with very few friends in my area. All my friends from school I grew up with, and were more like sisters/brothers so not many options for a life partner. The thought of where this mysterious someone would come from seemed hopeless. I searched and in the process left many of my values behind and compromised my identity as a Sikh.

After going through this experience I felt the emptiness of this and realized this wasn't the way. I had also felt like I had given up. That same year I decided to go to a Sikh/Spiritual/Yoga Camp and to my surprise met my wife. Patience is a virtue!

You never know where/when you are going to meet that person. But you will never be happy if you are always looking outside of you. Connect with your soul and the Guru inside you and develop that relationship and rest all will unfold with ease. Be the lighthouse yourself and attract those around you. Inspire others and you will be lifted up. The more you serve and help others the more blessings will come to you.

Set aside time every morning to connect with your soul. This is important. Learn about meditation and practice meditation ( http://www.sikhnet.com/news/what-is-meditation )

Here is an excerpt from a letter to me from SSS Harbhajan Singh Khalsa Yogiji when I was going through major challenges with my identity. I hope it gives you some encouragement.

November 18, 1995

My dear son in divine

Sat Nam. I am very grateful to you for keeping up and going through the hell of life.

Life is a situation of test, trial and triumph. You will be tested in your life and you must be strong. There is no easy way, and no easy answer. You must face all of your doubts and excel in spite of them; this is the test of life. A test would not be a test if it did not take all of your grit to overcome it. Every man who has achieved greatness in his life has gone through the most difficult time, full of doubt and pain. However, one thing that you must remember is that these situations build your character and make you strong. There is nothing for you to do but to overcome yourself. I cannot dispel your doubts, only you can do this through your spiritual practice. Those you who run away from doubt and fear without challenging it can never live in peace or have happiness. This is your test, my son. See it for what it is and get on with your life.

My deepest prayers and blessings are with you. May Guru Ram Das bless you and guide you.

In the name of the cosumes cosmos which prevail through everyBODY and the Holy Nam which holds the world.

Humbly Yours Yogi Bhajan

Ps. You can also read some related answers on this other question