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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh behn ji,

Let me first clear something before I begin to offer my lowly advice. Path isn't for others, its for us to read and understand. We need to read it and apply it to yourself to change our own lives. For example, "so kyo manda aakhiye jit jamme raajan", meaning "why call her bad? from her, kings are born". Now, you may read this everyday for the rest of your life and still call women bad things and think lowly of them, meaning, you haven't followed/applied it. Just like that, you may read sukhmani sahib for 40 days and still not apply it, thus, there's no real point, you won't be learning, "sikh nahi rahe". Now, in Sukhmani sahib, Guru Arjan dev ji says "kahoo fal ki eicha nahi baashai" meaning "they don't have desire for the fruit of their labor/work" but here, you want to do path to keep a man.

Lets say you do the path, how will that help keep him though? From your point of view, it might make god happy and sparkle some love into him? The line from japji sahib says "vada daata til na tamai", meaning "he does not hold back anything as he does not have any greed. Don't you think god wants you to be happy? Ofcourse, he does, but, he'll give in his own way with his own plans. So, the only way your man will change his mindset is through his own thinking and own state of mind.

Another question, didi, do you really want to force him to have love for you? I'm sure you're beautiful inside and out, with also sikhi (the biggest gem), you probably have cargivers that love you, there's so much love around you, just have to feel it. Now, as for him, no amount of begging, guilt traps or anything will change his mind. Those who love, never want to part ways and if he does, then he doesn't and honestly he doesn't deserve you as he hasn't even spoken to you for a year. Just stay calm, build up your own life by understanding sikhi more, studying, building a great career and then watch things change! There's no shortage of men with good hearts, so wait for him and give your heart to him. Remember, only fishes know the real importance of water. Just like that, the right man will acknowledge you and your effort. Until then, just accept Guru's will, and stay content.

However, you can do ardaas to god, not by saying "god all I want is him, I don't care if he's good for me or not" but say "god, give me what you please, if he's not for me then, give me the strength to stay content in your will". That is called "bhana mitha karke manana". If its meant to be and this is a test, then he'll come back but if not, something better will come along. Stay strong and bhul chuk muaf ji, Waheguru ji mehr karn.