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I can understand the high level of stress your are experiencing in many areas: familial stress/relationship, parental arguments/conflict, school stress, financial stress, time/energy level depletion, and anxiety/worried about the future. I am going to try my best to address most of our issues.

Familial stress/relationship: You mentioned you feel guilty because you are not able to emotionally provide any support to your mother while she is having to deal with certain arguments from your father. Your conflict here has to do with distance - being far away from your family. One suggestion is speaking to your mother and father regularly over the phone. Keeping them updated about your whereabouts, friends, what's happening in school - whether you have a midterm/exam to study for. It would be beneficial to you and it shows that you are keeping them involved in your life even while being far away. Another suggestion, is maybe setting some time before you go to sleep doing paat or listening to Burbank over the phone. This will build your relationship closer to Waheguru and closer to your parents. It will show that you care deeply and sincerely about their wellbeing. It will help you and your parents sleep better at night knowing that you are continuously trying to build the relationship. "Waheguru da naam jappo" - this means pray to his name. Your mom is probably worried sick about you. You probably don't know, but she probably prays for you to do well in your studies. If you prayed together, how meaningful would that be. Then when you have completed it will be 1000x more special.

Parental arguments/conflict: Well if you and your mom are praying together, then that means your dad will take notice and appreciate all that you are doing. Combined with attending class and studying, you are still giving time to worship Waheguru. I don't know if you are a guy or a girl, but even guys need to pray too.

School stress: Have good friends that you can study with. If you are going out/socializing too much. I suggest you stop and pay attention to your studies. Then you wouldn't be so worried so much. You are away for school. So please, do your dharma - duty/responsibilities and complete your degree. If you are doing well in school, midterm/exams...then your parents will be somewhat stress-free. So think about the repercussions first. If you have to study, and friends are pressing you to go out, choose to study. Set your priorities first. Time management is key - you can plan ahead and go out some other time. That is perfectly okay. Listen to shabad's, gurbani, paat while studying. It will improve attention/concentration levels.

Time/energy level depletion: You mentioned you want to give more of your time to school/studying and your parents. Talk to your parents everyday. Tell them about what you are doing. Be positive in your conversations with them. Talk to them about anything - your classes, the weather, what you ate, where your going, etc. You live far away so they are naturally going to miss and worry about you. It's natural, being a parent. I mentioned this before - prioritize your time and try your best to make time for everyone. Think about what is important - and then make a schedule to invest your time in those areas. Set goals and try to meet those goals.

You can actually do everything that you want to do if you set a strict schedule for yourself. You are practicing self-discipline which is very important in Bhakti - Bhakti means "a way of life".

Anxiety/worried about the future: Mool mantra is a very good paat to practice if you are worried. Talk to your parents about what you are experiencing. They will understand you. Speak with a cool mind. With compassion and understanding. You have very good parents. They raised you so believe in them a little more. You are also a good child so continue doing your best. Sometimes your best is actually the very best. Understand that, and know it is the truth.

Believe in Waheguru too.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=egGluwqc4EI

I can understand the high level of stress your are experiencing in many areas: familial stress/relationship, parental arguments/conflict, school stress, financial stress, time/energy level depletion, and anxiety/worried about the future. I am going to try my best to address most of our issues.

Familial stress/relationship: You mentioned you feel guilty because you are not able to emotionally provide any support to your mother while she is having to deal with certain arguments from your father. Your conflict here has to do with distance - being far away from your family. One suggestion is speaking to your mother and father regularly over the phone. Keeping them updated about your whereabouts, friends, what's happening in school - whether you have a midterm/exam to study for. It would be beneficial to you and it shows that you are keeping them involved in your life even while being far away. Another suggestion, is maybe setting some time before you go to sleep doing paat or listening to Burbank Gurbani over the phone. This will build your relationship closer to Waheguru and closer to your parents. It will show that you care deeply and sincerely about their wellbeing. It will help you and your parents sleep better at night knowing that you are continuously trying to build the relationship. "Waheguru da naam jappo" - this means pray to his name. Your mom is probably worried sick about you. You probably don't know, but she probably prays for you to do well in your studies. If you prayed together, how meaningful would that be. Then when you have completed it will be 1000x more special.

Parental arguments/conflict: Well if you and your mom are praying together, then that means your dad will take notice and appreciate all that you are doing. Combined with attending class and studying, you are still giving time to worship Waheguru. I don't know if you are a guy or a girl, but even guys need to pray too.

School stress: Have good friends that you can study with. If you are going out/socializing too much. I suggest you stop and pay attention to your studies. Then you wouldn't be so worried so much. You are away for school. So please, do your dharma - duty/responsibilities and complete your degree. If you are doing well in school, midterm/exams...then your parents will be somewhat stress-free. So think about the repercussions first. If you have to study, and friends are pressing pressuring you to go out, choose to study. Set your priorities first. Time management is key - you can plan ahead and go out some other time. That is perfectly okay. Listen to shabad's, gurbani, paat while studying. It will improve attention/concentration levels.

Time/energy level depletion: You mentioned you want to give more of your time to school/studying and your parents. Talk to your parents everyday. Tell them about what you are doing. Be positive in your conversations with them. Talk to them about anything - your classes, the weather, what you ate, where your going, etc. You live far away so they are naturally going to miss and worry about you. It's natural, being a parent. I mentioned this before - prioritize your time and try your best to make time for everyone. Think about what is important - and then make a schedule to invest your time in those areas. Set goals and try to meet those goals.

You can actually do everything that you want to do if you set a strict schedule for yourself. You are practicing self-discipline which is very important in Bhakti - Bhakti means "a way of life".

Anxiety/worried about the future: Mool mantra is a very good paat to practice if you are worried. Talk to your parents about what you are experiencing. They will understand you. Speak with a cool mind. With compassion and understanding. You have very good parents. They raised you so believe in them a little more. You are also a good child so continue doing your best. Sometimes your best is actually the very best. Understand that, and know it is the truth.

Believe in Waheguru too.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=egGluwqc4EI