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Dear one - You understand your own situation very well. Your parents will not meet your expectations and you will never meet their expectations of you. Why? Because you are you and they are who they are. But what you can do is let go of resentment, expectations and outcomes and work on acceptance. My favorite pauri from Japji Sahib to work on this is the 33rd pauri:

aakhan jor chupai nah jor. jor na mangan dayn na jor. jor na jeevan maran nah jor. jor na raaj maal man sor. jor na surtee gi-aan veechaar. jor na jugtee chhutai sansaar. jis hath jor kar vaykhai so-ay. naanak utam neech na ko-ay.

No power to be silent. No power to speak. No power to beg. No power to give. No power to die. No power to live. No power lies in worldly might. No power lies in earthly treasure. They only increase your mental chatter. No power to meditate or know the unknown. No power to leave this world and go home. One Power. One Actor. One Doer. One Knower. O Nanak! No one is higher or lower.

Try doing 11 repetitions of the pauri out loud in the morning and the evening.