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2019-02-13 16:03:49 -0500 answered a question In dire need of guidance.. please help

Absolutely as these two guys have said. StrongKaur gave most good answer, and Babaji also great as well. Safety first and calling the police and protection services.

We will all do Ardas and benti as well that you can be safe and that Guru Ji can protect you from future situations and help healing to take place. Let us stay in the safety of Maharaj and Sangat.

Love and support for you at this time.

2019-02-13 15:53:11 -0500 commented answer amritdhari women and Kanga

Oh that is a really good question, and we need an amritdhari woman to come and answer! I think it would be okay to just keep in on you in your pocket or something? It has a benefit to being inside the hair, like you see men do it, but let us see if an amrithdhari woman can answer this. Bless you :)

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2019-02-13 15:49:23 -0500 commented answer Need a very tough situation

It doesn't feel like you insulted them at all, because you were doing what is best for your own well being. So it is important to strike a balance between what is best for you and what you want to do for others. I am sure you know what will be best judgment. Lots of love to you Auntie.

2019-02-13 08:05:04 -0500 commented answer Need a very tough situation

I guess it will be your choice to keep trying with your husband or to move on. Whatever you think is appropriate. Equally, it is better for us to try and not be upset about past things, so we can be happy on this day.

2019-02-11 04:46:13 -0500 answered a question Need a very tough situation

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh,

So is the first problem is you are struggling with money, because you gave up your job when you became pregnant, and your parents-in-law are not helping you financially? If this is the case, then I understand your trouble because it does not seem easy to nuture an unborn child and have a job. If you are at your mum's house at the moment, does that mean you are okay and she is looking after you for food etc?

For solutions, if you put on a tape of Akhand paath in your house all day long (from Youtube) that is a very good way to start listening to Gurbani. Then you can get blessings from Maharaj and hopefully your situation will improve. You don't even have to listen, just play it in the house somewhere.

I am sorry to hear that you lost your daughter, if this is accurate to what you have said? It is not so good that on such a day your mum-in-law is saying bad things about your family. I wish you well that you can that this situation may improve for you and the nasty words may heal away and you can move on with your life.

Situation does not look so great, regarding you moving away from your husband and losing your things and staying with your mum. But it does not seem like you did much wrong, except 'one moment of anger' as you said. These things happen and we all make mistakes. So it is good to move on and be positive with your own life. There are still happy things for you to look forward to, like your new coming child that you are pregnant with.

If you can stay calm and kindly ask Guru Ji to arrange your affairs, then hopefully things can improve and the family relations can get healed. Guru Maharaj can work any miracle and can solve any trouble. Maybe this would mean mending things with your husband and getting things sorted so can be financially secure and not getting into arguments with your in-laws. If anything was missed my apologies, and anything questions are fine to be asked. Take care and good wishes for your family.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

2019-02-11 04:20:55 -0500 commented answer I feel stuck

Well you can take my word for it, or you can meditate and find out for yourself. Hopefully you may see the reality that everything is God actually, not just a guy in the sky. You and I are part of God and we live in God, so everything around you is God. Well take care :)

2019-02-08 01:14:10 -0500 commented answer I feel stuck

Yeah I thought it would be I guess, lol. But answer never changes! :) take Hukamnama from Guru and you'll see absolutely, answer is always the same.

2019-02-07 15:59:27 -0500 answered a question I feel stuck

So if you are concerned and you don't whats wrong, then meditating on the Cosmos can help you. Chanting waheguru, breathing, listening to kirtan. Going inside, all answers can be found.

I once heard Yogi Ji describe something similar to you, about 'Space fever', where you struggle to relate to your surroundings, and you described trying to 'get out of the universe'. Yoga and meditation will help you, and service to others will stimulate the circle of flow so you receive answers and blessings.

Is there anything in your life that makes you feel happy? Friends and family, even pets you may love a lot? Sports you play, yummy foods or books, TV shows etc...? Remember those things that bring you joy, and you can feel the gratitude of having them in your life. And when you are in a state of gratitude to the Universe, a lot of blessings can come your way. This is especially true when you are in a depressed or tough time - recognizing gratitude and thanks for things which you do have can turn things around for you.

2019-01-31 05:20:18 -0500 commented answer Life feels weird and strange ...

If you just play sehaj paath in your room from Youtube whilst you sleep (even whilst you are at school and not there), I think your depression would vanish pretty fast. Because the quality of the air will change and uplift you, that's how we make the water into Amrit (with bani). So no harm trying.

2019-01-31 05:17:05 -0500 commented answer Life feels weird and strange ...

Well let us not be playful between life and death because it does take 8 million or so lifetimes to become a human. If there is a lot of depression, there is also a lot of opportunity for strength (there is ALWAYS a balance between positive and negative).

2019-01-31 05:12:24 -0500 answered a question Sex before marriage is ok?

From a Globalist perspective, the marriage is just your commitment. But if you are asking a karmic question, then marriage isn't affecting the karma. A single person may only have sex with one person in their life, but they might not be married. A married person may be having affairs all day long, but they are married. So its not whether you are married, its whether or not you are sleeping around.The single person is doing things in a way most would think is fine, and the married guy will probably end up in trouble. So the key is having just one partner, that person you are merging souls with. Equally, the question then comes, why the 2 single people wouldn't get married, but it's a question of commitment. It's not really anyone else's business whether or not two people who want to be together their whole lives are married or not. That's their personal commitment and choice.

From the Sikhi perspective, we have those marital ceremonies to ensure that commitment and create the binding of the souls to Guru Maharaj. That's a really beautiful thing remember, why to miss out on that? :)

From a Khalsa perspective, there is a rehit and part of that is waiting untill marriage.

2019-01-30 22:16:10 -0500 answered a question Life feels weird and strange ...

About the class, I feel like you should do what you think is best to keep you happy and healthy (in mind and body).

So you prefer not be in the class because of this guy, that seems fair. On the other hand, it sounded like if you aren't in the class it affects your grades, and you need reasonable grades to keep peace with your parents? So you have options that you can choose, but it seems like either way can work for you. It will be kind of difficult for someone else to tell you what choice will make you happy, because what one person finds happy another finds sad. So that's why the recommendation was for you to choose. Equally, not many like to deal with angry parents, so if you can find a way to keep your grades high that might help you.

About paath and bad thoughts, what even is a bad thought? Murder, or letting down your parents, or rebelling against society? How bad can the thoughts get?.... A good guy's worst thought may be robbery, but a Robber's worst thought is probably getting caught by the cops! lol...

The thing you want to think about the least is the thing you will think about. (example: do not think about a monkey with a banana --- now you will find it hard not to think about this). HOWEVER, bani always works because it has a neutral meditative quality, so even having it on in your room casually will always make an impact.

I hope this helps and you are feeling better, you said you think God has turned his back on you, but you are still a beautiful flower in his creation because all the flowers have their own unique beauty.

Take care :)

2019-01-28 20:59:14 -0500 commented answer I lose my Sikhi Sprite ?

Turning off the radio can definitely be good sometimes Babaji. You are quite right there. Let us hope bhai ji can get the strength from Maharaj to get back his Sikhi Spirit. He could use your honourable example to quickly re-assume his spirit, if he feels he has lost it. Bless you ji.

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2019-01-26 17:27:36 -0500 answered a question What exactly would be considered "Gur Seva" serving the Guru? How can we do do Guru ki seva nowadays?

Yeah seva like household seva :) That stuff isn't gonna get old, there will always be taalis (plates) at the Gurudwara that need cleaning... lol. Bless you ji

2019-01-26 17:05:32 -0500 answered a question Being a pessimist

Well its okay to be sad sometimes too, thats a human thing. You know one person will see something as bad, and another person might see the same thing as good? One person may have no friends, and be happy because they prefer their own company. Another may be alone and be very sad, because they want to have lots of friends. So sometimes it is just how you deal with the situation, and not the situation itself. Why not look at the positive in everything? That way you will be happy no matter what comes your way. Bless you ji.

2019-01-26 16:54:52 -0500 answered a question I lose my Sikhi Sprite ?

Well, I'm not sure what your question is, but I wouldn't worry about what other people think. If you enjoy reading Gurbani than why don't you do it? You will get blessings of Guru Ji :)

2019-01-26 16:51:07 -0500 commented answer Will God take care of me?

No you cannot

2019-01-26 16:50:56 -0500 commented answer Will God take care of me?

No you cannot. :)

2019-01-26 16:49:08 -0500 answered a question I don't know whats wrong

Well Guruka Babaji did a great post, and I had some thoughts as well. I thought I could relate also because I just finished school. FIrst thing I thought after reading is, you are SO loved. SO loved by everything that is around you. In all of God's creation, we human beings are loved by God so very dearly. So God must be quite sad when we feel like we are not worthy even of living.

Please don't be down, from reading I genuinely don't see a single thing you have done wrong. Not one thing. So there is no reason for you to feel bad, and we all make mistakes, that is totally part of life. Better is to keep your head high and try again, rather than regret the past. If you try your best, no one can say anything to you.

So let's address the big issue: this feeling of 'your brain being fried'. I totally get and feel the same way lots of the time. Normally I feel that way after I have been on my phone or computer for a long time (maybe for school work etc). As Guruka Singh mentioned as well, what we can do to counter this is things like breathing work, Kundalini Yoga and Gurbani (nitnem, kirtan etc). The idea is that you use the yoga to tune your body (like you tune up an instrument), and then when you chant bani (or listen) there will be the most beautiful sound produced. Those are the sounds of the heavens! :)

Also excellent is psychical exercise, like long running and sports. Do you have friends who are very sporty or athletes? Normally these guys have a good mental clarity, because the exercise releases hormones in the body that make you feel good, and it clears your mind of garbage. So running or the gym is something you could do immediately to start feeling good and healthy. Also good, healthy food will keep your 'body machine' operating nicely. Good fruits and veg etc... Lastly seva is a great thing. God always looks after those who give, so doing seva at home or Gurdwara can be really helpful I find. And at the Gurudwara seva is normally easy to do because most have langar going on.

So about your crush with this boy and what your Auntie said, I don't think its a good idea to listen to what she said. Sexual attraction is a very natural thing, Guru Ji just advised to have one marital partner. In fact having a marital relationship is more in line with what our Gurus did than being celibate. So I don't see why to worry about that.

You said you feel stuck on this world and 'wanna go somewhere'. Thats okay. You can go into the heavenly realms when you chant Gurbani! :) Thats what goes on in heaven, and you can be up there whilst still on the earth if you want ... (more)

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2018-12-18 17:17:11 -0500 answered a question Is our death preordained? Or can we change the Time of our death ?

Shanti Kaur does a story on this on Sikhnet Youtube - She recalls how Guru Gobind Singh said the time and date of death is prewritten. This meant that when his soldiers went into battle, there was no reason for them to be afraid. Either that day was their day to die, or it wasn't. If they were supposed to die, it meant even if they ran from the battlefield, they would die perhaps in another situation. If it wasn't their day to die, there was no army that could stop them, even if they were 1 against 125 thousand. Blessings ji. :)

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2018-12-18 17:08:38 -0500 answered a question Is this the end?

I totally agreed with Guruka babaji, and his supportive comments. If you are struggling to get up for sadhana, maybe you can go to the Gurudwara that you mentioned to do nitnem there, if they offer, or help with morning sukhasan seva etc... Sangat can always be really helpful to support your Amrit Vela practice. Also doing seva for Maharaj may be helpful in getting up, as Guru showers blessings on those that serve him. Best wishess bhenji

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2018-12-18 17:02:31 -0500 answered a question Will God take care of me?

Yes, if you do not have sex then you won't get pregnant. And yes, God will always take care of you, no matter what, if you are kindly asking for his help. That is good that you mentioned you pray, so if you are feeling worried then it makes sense to continue to ask God to help you, as you say you are doing, and you will surely be taken care of. Bless you bhenji :)

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2018-12-11 01:50:27 -0500 answered a question Is 30 mins of Simran enough to grow spiritually- daily in the mornings without Nitnem?

I personally had the exact same situation when I was doing A-levels - I would be trying to work on mediating and nitnem in the mornings before school, and my parents were very much alienated by that. What worked for me was to trust Guru Maharaj and kindly ask for his support, and trust in the power of the meditative practice. The meditation is clearing your mind, especially with other practices like Yoga and doing your nitnem. Thus I ended up doing much better in my exams because I was much clearer. If you want to do better in your studies, so as to keep your parents happy, these practices will support you, as will healthy lifestyle, exercise etc... Serving people, say at the Gurudwara will also do you a help - remember that God helps those that help others.

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2018-10-13 06:28:56 -0500 asked a question Ishnaan Seva at Darbar Sahib

Satnam Ji, Firstly, I'd like to give big thank you, and smile and hugs to the Sikhnet Team for your great seva and opening this platform and your other platforms, so we, the Sangat, can get answers to our spiritual questions. My question is about Seva as a Sadhana and how this works. From my understanding, Sri Singh Sahib Ji gave the Aquarian Sadhana for his students to do for the foreseeable future. On the other hand, Yogi Ji notes that he spent 4 1/2 years doing his Sadhana at Darbar Sahib doing Ishnaan Seva. My question is, do Aquarian Sadhana and 'Ishnaan Seva Sadhana' represent 2 different types of Sadhana, is there a different effect to doing one or the other? Also, could one recreate the 'spirit' of Ishnaan Seva in their home, say by doing tidying at cleaning at Amrit Vela time? What are your thoughts on this topic. Best Wishes and Blessings, Tarran Singh