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hmmmmm this topic gets everyone. First of all spiritualism and vegetarianism go together. Secondly Guru Ji said, jeev hateya nahi karni which basically means not to kill. Meat comes from killing which isn't what Guruji wants us to do so guess 'Meat and Sikhi' don't mix but then again Rehat Maryada says don't eat halal does this mean, a Sikh can eat jhatka? I myself don't eat meat, simply because Guruji said, not to kill and there are other things we can eat like fruit and veges.

Ummm I guess when you start to see facial hair that would be at around the age of 15. Some kids start wearing a pagg at 12 some don't start till they reach 20 but I guess once you start to see facial hair would be good. Please correct me if I am wrong. I know my brother started when he got facial hair.

Waheguru ji ka khalsa, Waheguru ji ki fateh!

Ummmm you can marry anyone you like. Sikhism was created to get rid of the caste system and Sikhism says everyone is equal, color and race doesn't matter.

What your mother is saying is different. By saying, "preferable to marry your own race", she probably means that if you marry someone outside of your race or caste, there will be cultural/family value differences, nothing else.

When a person becomes a Sikh, their caste and race doesn't matter because at the end of the day, that person is a SIKH!

Hope this answers your question :-)

Bro, you don't have to blend it, Sikhism was not created to blend in but to Stand out :-).

I am so glad you changed your mind. You don't have to blend it, Sikhism was not created to blend in but to Stand out :-). May waheguru bless you.

Seriously wish there was a way to stop you. You would have found a beautiful partner who loved you for who you are not for your appearance. But if you have no respect for the Sikh saroop then no one here can help you.

I am a girl so you may say, I can't understand and it's easy for girls to blend in. But believe me, girls get bullied too. Sikhi isn't about being the first or last, it comes from within the heart. May be give it another thought.

Really wish there was a way to stop ya. May waheguru bless you. You should be proud of your Sikhi saroop, not be frustrated with it. Really don't know what to say to you, your words "decision is final" are so strong :-|

Ummm I agree with Kanwaljit Virji..don't think people from the same sex can get married in-front of Guru Granth Sahib Ji

SSA Everyone. I have noticed some Sikh females wear sindoor and as far as I am concerned/aware, sindoor isn't part of Sikhi. I tried to find Gurbani verses or examples from the Sikh history on the net but couldn't find too much information.

Someone asked "why some Sikhs wear sindoor and some don't?".

All I know is that the Hindu Scholars say that red is the color of power while vermilion is a symbol of the female energy of Parvati and Sati. Hindu mythological legends regard Sati as the ideal wife who gave her life for her husband's honor. Every Hindu wife is supposed to emulate her. Hindus believe that Goddess Parvati protects all those men whose wives apply vermilion to their parting of hair.

So obviously Sindoor isn't part of Sikhism but I usually like to support my answers with Gurbani. Could one of you please help me answer the question why some sikh females do it and some don't? I think its because people are not aware and people just do whatever other people are doing around them. However I really need sikh examples to answer the question. The 3rd paragraph although makes it clear that it isn't sikhism but you know some people still want to argue and ask what makes you sure? So for them I need Gurbani verses and/or examples.

Guru Gobind Singh Ji said: "Jab Lag Khalsa Rahe Niara, Tab Lag Tej Dioon Mein Sara Jab Eh Gaye Bipran Ki Reet, Mein Na Karoon In Ki Parteet"

And to me Sindoor is Bipran ki reet.

Hope to hear from someone really soon.

Gurfateh, Prabh

Have you tried talking to her? Telling her that you get hurt? May be you should talk to her or if it is just easier move out?

Sigh! Can understand what you are saying but think about it, is crying and thinking about the past going to solve anything? You need to let go, know its easier said than done but you MUST TRY! Focus on your present and let go off the past. You will definitely find someone who will make your life beautiful but trapping yourself in a room isn't going to take you anywhere so please cut it out and just focus on the present. If you need to talk to someone just to get rid of the thoughts, we are all here :-). Will try our best to help you overcome this.

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Ummmm I think you just need time that is all. When you are a kid, you go through this phase and it seems like no-one understands.

I seriously think, you should go out get some fresh air everyday, have a bubble bath, learn kirtan. You, yourself have to stop thinking negative. Once again occupy your thoughts by doing the things you once enjoyed. It will take time but you will get over it.

Sometimes whatever we do hurts people around us and we don't realize it but I am sure making small changes can help get rid of all this. You probably know why you are stressed and you probably already know what will fix it, but us humans just don't want to make the effort. Totally understand what you are saying...If you need to talk, I can give you my email address.

Ghosts hmmmmm...if you start believing in stuff like this, you will start to feel the fear. Occupy your brain with sports, paath, kirtan. Go for a run, have a bath then pray. Babji is with you, only he is watching you no-one else so don't be scared. Every time you are scared chant 'Waheguru Satnaam'. Before you go to sleep, do Kirtan Sohila' da paath.

Why don't you pray? Go for long walks, play a sport, swim...help your mum and dad at home. Try and keep your brain occupied with things you most enjoy. You are going through a phase, most kids go through, I reckon you should give it some time and stop thinking that you are depressed, change your environment and your thoughts will change. Don't take medicine! Ummmm you could learn kirtan, it will help you relax.

So before you come back and say that your thoughts just don't seem to go away, try sports, kirtan, paath, helping family etc.

Hope this will help.

I think you should try talking to him. Tell him how you feel and make him aware of what he does when he is drunk. Share your feelings with him and do tell him that you don't want him to drink, say his drinking is hurting the whole family.

I totally agree with Kanwaljit virji. You need to change your lifestyle in-order to lose and maintain the weight. You don't have to starve yourself. Just eat 2 roti's instead of three. Eat smaller portions, several times a day. At first it would seem a lot cause you will think you are eating all day but remember you are only eating a small amount.

Ummmm sometimes our body is just thirsty but we think we are hungry, try drinking some water to see if you still need to munch on something!

Like virji said - 30mins of cardio, controlled diet should do the trick. By controlled diet, I DON'T mean starve yourself. You could try the following:

Breakfast: Tea/Milk/Cereal+fruit

Morning tea: Fruit/drink

Lunch: 2 roti's with sabji/daal or Subway/sandwich

Afternoon tea: Fruit/drink

Dinner: 2 roti's with sabji/daal or whatever you have

Before bedtime if you are really hungry: Milk <- optional

                  **Remember to drink lots of water!**

Please note the above isn't what you should stick to, it is just an example, you need to eat fruits, veggies, protein etc!

Ummmm ever heard this: Morning: Eat like a king, Lunch: Eat like a prince, Dinner: Eat like a beggar.

I reckon if you don't like it, consider changing it BUT don't just stop doing what you are doing right now. Think about other options, discuss it with your parents and think about what is it that you really hate? May be you just need a break.

I agree with ya 100%. Sikhism will never lose respect. My parents did a great job too :-)

Hmmm...I am sure you know the answer like Virji said above but dwelling on it isn't going to help now is it?

Pray and you will be fine but learn from your mistake. Us humans know what is right or wrong but we always do what pleases us even if we know it is wrong. Cleanse your mind and soul by doing paath, listening to Gurbani, going to Gurudwara sahib and move on.

Just remember not to do it again!

I know easier said than done but what else can you do now? You cannot cry forever or feel guilty. Just do not repeat it.

There must be a reason - why are you feeling this way? I had low self esteem, thought I wasn't pretty etc but seriously everyone tells me I am. I just didn't know how to dress up and ummm I still don't but I have friends and family who help me out.

There must be a reason - why are you feeling this way? Depression and low self esteem happen for a reason. If you like, share the cause and I am sure one of us can help guide you through it or try talking to someone, usually us humans know the answer to our problems ourselves.