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He's moved on and so should you. Cut off all contact with him. Focus on your job and finding a man who loves you and wants to marry you. Don't waste time, otherwise you'll end up an old lady alone. Whatever God does it for the best.

Sit down with them and have an open and honest talk. I'm not sure how old you are, but are you ready to get married? What do you know about this guy? Is he single, a good person, has a good job? Do you both want the same things in life? These are things your parents will want to know and you should think about. All the best.

Sit down with them and have an open and honest talk. I'm not sure how old you are, but are you ready to get married? What do you know about this guy? Is he single, a good person, has a good job? Do you both want the same things in life? These are things your parents will want to know and you should think about. All the best.

Thank you Penji for the reply. If I may ask, are you the one who left?

What are the consequences, both emotional and spiritual, of walking away from a marriage where there is a lot of fighting? There is no adultery and abuse.

What are the consequences, both emotional and spiritual, of walking away from a marriage where there is a lot of fighting? There is no adultery and abuse.

Dear Bhenji,

Please just focus on the relationship between you and your husband. You will never be able to make everyone happy and not everyone will like you and that's OK. In this life, you and your husband were brought together to work off karma and to move closer to God. Use your grace and love as a woman to build a happy marriage and avoid the negativity. I know you can't get away from family--key is to be diplomatic and avoid gossip and avoid taking sides. Hope that helps.

Sat Sri Akal, I'm so sorry to hear about your dilemma. Please see your doctor (or go to the nearest Emergency Room) and therapist immediately if you are having suicidal thoughts, you may need to have your medications/therapy adjusted. Please continue to read Gurbani and remember God, that is the best way to wash out your karma. If you can, start volunteering and doing sewa for those who are less fortunate, it may help put things into perspective. I'm not sure what your background is, but their are people around the world who struggle everyday for food, water, clothing and shelter. Be thankful if you're not one of them. Thousands of innocent people are killed in wars. Be thankful if you don't have to worry about this. Count your blessings and bond with your family and friends. All the best.

Sat Sri Akal, I'm so sorry to hear about your dilemma. Please see your doctor (or go to the nearest Emergency Room) and therapist immediately if you are having suicidal thoughts, you may need to have your medications/therapy adjusted. Please continue to read Gurbani and remember God, that is the best way to wash out your karma. If you can, start volunteering and doing sewa for those who are less fortunate, it may help put things into perspective. I'm not sure what your background is, but their are people around the world who struggle everyday for food, water, clothing and shelter. Thousands of innocent people are killed in wars. Count your blessings and bond with your family and friends. You are loved very dearly and you are not alone. All the best.

Sat Sri Akal, I'm so sorry to hear about your dilemma. Please see your doctor (or go to the nearest Emergency Room) and therapist immediately if you are having suicidal thoughts, you may need to have your medications/therapy adjusted. Please continue to read Gurbani and remember God, that is the best way to wash out your karma. If you can, start volunteering and doing sewa for those who are less fortunate, it may help put things into perspective. I'm not sure what your background is, but their are people around the world who struggle everyday for food, water, clothing and shelter. Thousands of innocent people are killed in wars. Count your blessings and bond with your family and friends. All the best.

Thank you for your answers....so I guess their really isn't a yes or no.

I'm sorry, I didn't understand your answer. Please elaborate. thanks

Doesn't seem like--if that was the case, would their still be poverty and suffering the world? Couldn't everyone just decide to be rich and happy? God's will is infinite, we can't do anything without it. Rest happens based on our karma and the lessons we're reincarnated again and again to learn. All the best.

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Rest assured, you're not alone. We've all had our fair share of ups and downs in life--it comes with the territory and to a certain extent, our past karma and choices. Have faith and be strong, Waheguruji is with you at all times--He sees and hears all. When the time is right, your prayers will be answered. In the mean time, continue doing paath, it does wonders for the soul. Get out and help others, especially those who are less fortunate, you'll be amazed at the joy it brings you. You may want to consider counseling/therapy (I know some schools/offices offer it for free) to maybe help you get a different perspective on things. Hope that helps, all the best.

I'm so sorry to hear about your dilemma. Rest assured that this too will pass. How do you know for sure that she considers you a brother? I'm not sure how old you are, but try talking to her (or her family) and let her know how you feel. Be straightforward, honest and respectful. If she doesn't feel the same way, then you have your answer and you can move on with a clear mind. It's tough and it may hurt a while, but keep doing naam simran and your activities at the gurdwara to keep yourself busy. Trust me, their are plenty of other eligible women around you, just keep your eyes and your heart open. In the end, relationships are determined by God, we meet and marry the people we do based on our karmas. Take the time to grow and learn about yourself. All the best.

I think a caste system still exists in Sikh society and I think it always will as long as people from our parents/grand parents generation hang on to their old ways. Of course, you should address each individual independently, but I think in the big things in life, i.e. marriage and family customs, the presumed caste differences come out more so and it's these big things that continue to keep it alive.

Use a soap/cleanser that's made with special acne medicines. There are a lot of products in the market now (depending on where you live), try Clean and Clear or Neutrogena or even Biore acne products. An example of an anti-acne ingredient would be salicylic acid, which is found in a lot of acne cleansers/products. Of course, you always want to make sure you don't have an allergy to something new before you try it and check with your doctor. Also, try to keep acne areas clean and dry and avoid wearing sweaty clothes. If you're into the ayurvedic stuff, you may want to search online for anti-pimple packs that are made with turmeric. In the end, it's about good hygiene and time. All the best.

First of all, you're not alone and this is normal. You're young and you're growing up...it's perfectly natural and biological for your body to be changing and having surges of hormones that cause what you're feeling. Girls also go through the same thing. Key is how you handle it. Keep yourself busy with family, activities at school, reading good novels and doing naam simran everyday. Taking up sports, exercise and cold showers will also help. Spending time and doing sewa at the gurdwara is also a good way to keep your thoughts and urges under control. As you get older, you'll (hopefully) be more able to control your thoughts and urges....but for now, understand you're growing up and it's a complex physical and psychological journey. All the best.

I'm a sikh lady and was married to a sikh man for 2 months. Their was no adultry involved, but I ended our marriage because he didn't make an effort to bond with my family and we were fighting all the time, I know he wanted to work things out but I told him we weren't compatible and that I didn't love him anymore. I know he was devastated and deeply hurt. I re-married 4 months later and he still hasn't found anyone. We haven't spoken since I ended things a year ago. Will I have bad karma for all the pain I've caused him and his family and from walking away?