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2015-07-08 00:08:19 -0500 answered a question Is this ritualistic ?

I feel this to be a ritual as I do not know of anything in Gurbani supporting this practice. As it is possible that I would have missed something while exploring & Gurbani support something like this I would really like to know. If this is something all about trust, faith, belief in Guru, Gurbani, God, then do we really need to attach this trust to any kind of ritual? I don't think so

2015-07-07 23:37:46 -0500 answered a question Sexism and Sikhi

GN did the good job explaining how our Gurus considered and promoted the men and women equality.

Here is one more piece of explanation. I am not sure if you know this or not that old communities were dominated with the believe to consider Husbands as God (thought still prevalent among many communities). Women were and are still expected to serve their husbands lords. Women were and to some extent are still considered inferior to men. Gurbani says that there is only God, if you say Husbands are God then we have only one husband that is God. and we should serve our God the way community expected wives to serve their husbands. If we consider he (man) superior to she (woman), Gurbani tells us that then God is the he because God is the only one superior. Gurbani explains the same thing in many different ways. This is just a way of Gurbani to explain us about the truth and to help us clear our misconceptions.

The more we discuss Gurbani, more we understand it.

2015-07-07 19:50:45 -0500 answered a question Is this ritualistic ?

Sikh's primary focus is learning from Guru Granth Sahib. I personally feel drinking water a ritual at this point of time. I do explore Gurbani and as far as I understand it till now I do not find Gurbani supporting drinking water from any Gurudwara Sarovers or anything similar. However I would really like to know if it is supported by Gurbani. As it is all about faith, trust and belief in Waheguru, why we attach this faith, trust with rituals?

2015-07-07 19:20:55 -0500 answered a question How do you do it?

Others influence us only if we let them to. And what influences us depend on our priorities.

Drinking has negative effects on our brain. And when brain is messed up we can not perceive, process information properly. And Sikhi is all about learning, from Guru Granth Sahib, relating the Gurbani with our life. Brain under the influence of substance can not do that.

Physical Sikhi appearance is important but this is not the only thing important in Sikhi. As Sikhi is not something solely about rituals. Sikh's literal meaning in english is 'learn'. And Sikhs learn from Guru Granth Sahib.

Previous answer has already provided many resources. There is another one which I personally like. The following site has entire Guru Granth Sahib in Punjabi, Hindi, & English with translation. This site is pretty good and helpful. The link to site is as follows

Read few lines daily from Guru Granth Sahib, along with their meaning. Find someone with whom you can discuss Gurbani. Discussion is very important for learning. Hopefully you will soon start looking at life in a different way. Sincere study of Gurbani will help you develop your internal self and will make you more strong.

And a thing which I always wonder about "Plants are living organisms too, but we still eat them, why we never say that do not kill plants just because we are hungry"

Any questions, comments are appreciated, I am open to further discussion.

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2015-07-07 12:41:54 -0500 answered a question marriage issues

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

Gurbani helps with everything in life. As now you are doing Sehaj path, take full advantage of Gurbani. Please do not just read through Guru Granth Sahib. Try to understand the meaning, try to understand what is written in Guru Granth sahib and relate it to your life. It will make more sense if we do Sehaj path from a Steek (Hard or soft copy of Guru Granth Sahib with meaning to words and lines). Find someone with whom you can discuss Gurbani. Read blogs, sites, discussion threads, articles, sikh history. Listen to katha. Never be afraid to put you thoughts in words while discussing Gurbani and be open minded. This will help you see your life from a different perspective. Gurbani will help you develop your internal being and will make you strong. And rest depends on your willingness and priorities.

Although your question is specific to marriage issues but to me it feels more like lack of empowerment. This is your life and if you want to make your own decisions you have to develop the courage to do so. Become independent and have the courage to carry your own burden. It all depends on you that what you want in and from your life.

Being a girl I also face societal issues and we all struggle to make a right decision. If our intentions are true , Waheguru is always there for us. however our prayers might not be answered in the way we want (And hardships do not mean that God is not helping us, they are way to discover better). And remember criticism follow us throughout our life no matter what we do. It is all up to us that what we want to take out from that criticism.

People will influence you and your decisons if you let them to. You will hear all kind of different advise and answers throughout your life and it is all up to you that what you want to do.

If any of my words appear inappropriate, I apologize for that. I am open to further discussion.